Three ceremonies in three countries or just elope and send everyone a MOV file?
July 20, 2007 7:53 PM Subscribe
InternationalMarriageFilter: So The Dark Princess has consented to marry a Mutant. We think three ceremonies in three countries are needed. Looking for tips / opinions / advise on the whole sheebang lest we say the hell with it all and elope.
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I'm American and live in London. The Dark Princess is Dutch and lives in Amsterdam. We work for the same bank and met during one of my biweekly trips to Holland. Things developed quickly and we're getting hitched. A few questions:
Her family lives in Holland. Mine in the US. To simplify matters we're thinking a single ceremony for the "official" act would take place in a small French town. Her and I thought this would most effectively be accomplished alone, or perhaps accompanied by one or two friends each.
Later there would be civil ceremonies with receptions for each family in a different domicile (i.e., US and The Netherlands).
A few questions:
- I'm sure we're not the first to struggle with this issue. Is this, the obvious approach, optimal?
- We're not clear on the EU wide legality of a ceremony held in France. We know it must be so, but does this truth hold if a non EU national (myself, the aforementioned American) is included?
- What are the legalities of holding multiple ceremonies, if they are in fact civil or "ceremonial"? Intuitively we suspect no problems, but across national boundaries is this true?
- Logistics? Back to back, get them over with fast! and get on with our lives - recommended or not? Seems like delaying one or more would cause family members undue concern. Again, how have others handled this?
- Loot? We don't need nor want any. How to convince folks of this? The international aspect makes reutrning - or even accepting - unwanted gifts expensive and time consuming
In general, any tips or advise that you might be able to pass along would be welcome. I believe we may be a unnecessarily intimidated by this but even so, I want to make sure we don't overlook something blindingly obvious in retrospect.