I want to have a baby with my wife. Problem is, we're both women.
I'm 25, my wife is 24. We're lesbians. Both in excellent health. We've always wanted to have kids (we'd like 2). We're looking to do this in about 4 or 5 years, so no real rush. In the past we've gotten lots of suggestions:
a) Adopt (totally not against it, but we both have a real urge to "pass on our genetic line" even though it's egotistical.)
b) One of us uses a donor, and has a baby. Wait 2.5 years. Then the other one of us uses the same donor, and has the other baby. That way we would each have a chance to pass on our genetic line, and the two children would still be genetic half-siblings. Our fear with this option is that no matter how hard we try, we would somehow each favor "our" genetic child over the other.
c) Some people have the genius idea we both get inseminated at the same time. I think this is horrible because 2 pregnant women in the same house alone would likely cause the end of our relationship. Plus who would get us pickles and ice cream at 2am?
d) One of us has both children. Unfortunately, one of us wouldn't be able to pass on our genes, but that would alleviate the concern with option b.
e) The creepy option (in my opinion), I have a brother who says he'd like to be the donor. Obviously my wife would carry the child. My mom thinks this is a great idea because it would still kind of be "my child" because it's from my genetic line. My wife has even decided she's not against it. My brother's rationale is that he is single (he's 23) and this is his way to do a good deed and also pass on his genetic line w/no responsibilities. I'm a little hesitatant to let him make this decision so young. Not to mention he would be the baby's daddy AND the uncle.
f) there has been talk of a scientific procedure that would allow 2 women to have a baby that was genetically completely theirs. It's called haploidization, and the link is here: Haploidization Article
I haven't seen any updates on this, or the other couple of methods scientists are working on since this article was published in 2002.
My questions to all of you are:
Have you heard anything about this "haploidization/haploidisation" since this article? Are there any new techniques out there? I remember hearing about something else that was similar in the works. This would solve all our problems.
If that's not an option, and remember, we aren't looking to have kids for 4-5 years, which option do you think is the next best thing?
I really appreciate any feedback, everyone I talk to is already too involved with the situation to be non-emotional.