Hi. My name's Anon and I'm an alcoholic. Please help me find a treatment program in California.
I've been drinking heavily for about 5 years and I'd like to stop. I know from previous attempts (and from common sense) that I need to be medically supervised while detoxing. I get the shakes by mid-day if I don't have a drink. I also don't have a lot of people in my life nearby to babysit while I'm drying out. I just want to do it the right way.
Problem is, I don't have health insurance. I'll likely have to borrow money from family to do this, which I'm willing to do. Fortunately, they'll be willing to help.
I really want to find a program that's going to work for me, but I don't have any idea what to expect or what questions to ask. I know I need to call a few and ask about their treatment approaches, cost, etc. What specific questions should I ask? What can I expect from medically-supervised detox? How much do these places cost, anyway? I'm sure there's a wide range, but I don't even know what a ballpark figure would be. Location/duration won't be a deciding factor, as I have flexibility there.
Another thing I'm really curious about -- please don't take this the wrong way -- but I'm a smart, young, urban type. I think I would probably benefit from treatment geared toward my own environment (i.e., boring) rather than to the challenges faced by someone who's likely to go back to the mean streets after treatment. I want to learn from others' experiences, but I also think that in order to be successful I'll need to be able to focus partly on my own lifestyle. How does one ask a facility what range of clientele they have?
(I rewritten that over and over to try to keep it from sounding racist or classist. I really don't mean it that way.)
I should also mention that I'm not really into the idea of 12-step programs. I know a little too much about them, and I'm not really convinced AA will work for me. I don't really know what the effective alternatives are, though, so questions to ask on that front would be helpful too. And nothing faith-based, thanks.
Apologies for the jumbled series of questions. Any advice on specific questions to ask (and the kinds of answers I should look for) is appreciated. Post here or email DryMeOut [at] Gmail.
2) Go when you are starting to detox, not when you are stone drunk. You will be shakey, but able to articulate your intentions. Your need for medical support will be apparent. Sorry for the blank honesty, but this is the truth for persons who need assistance with out insurance. Try to get inpatient detox for at least 7 days. Seizures don't start until after the 2nd or 3rd day (if you are prone to that).
3) Don't think you are any better off than the skid row drunk just because you are a smart urban type. Just accept the fact this is an issue and any help is better than none. Picking and choosing your treatment is not really an option now. Getting real, professional assistance is. Take what you can and hope that you can clear your mind enough to make the right choices in your sobriety.
4) What you will benefit from after the initial detox is very different than what you think you will now. Just go and get medical assistance and leave the soul searching for a later date. Right now it is all about physical withdrawl.
5) Life is going to suck for a while, but if you have an earnest desire to live a new life, it is all out there for the taking. You just have to put your hand out.
I wish you luck.
posted by lampshade at 6:39 PM on May 14, 2007