How can I stop fighting?
April 29, 2007 11:42 PM Subscribe
So, last night I was ejected from yet another bar, and I think I need some help.
posted by Loto to human relations (46 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
In the past few months, I've been removed from about a half dozen bars for fighting. It started as a one off thing, and I still hold on to the idea that I had good reason for starting that fight but I was drunk and I may just be trying to justify it to myself after the fact. I'll just go out to the bar by myself to relax, and I end up picking a fight with a stranger. I was even kicked out of a diner for getting into a shouting match with some random guy also sitting at the counter. I am lucky that nothing criminal has ever been brought up against me. I don't know why I do this, though.
Academically, my year has been great. My grades are great. I fell in with a good group of people after having kept to myself for a long while. I have three good part-time jobs right now, am fitter than I have ever been, and my team is going to nationals. I still feel depressed at times, but over all I feel like I am doing well. Why am I trying to sabotage myself then? What can I do to stop this? I'm trying to see a shrink, but my school doesn't have any openings until the summer session starts so I have to wait a few weeks.
Drinking is the next obvious issue. I cut down my drinking a lot, as I was quite the binge drinker for a while. Last weekend was the first time I had been out in a long while. The thing is that two of my fights occurred sober, so I can't blame it completely on booze.
Does anyone have any experience with this? Has anyone beat something like this? How did you do it? I feel like (and have been told before) that I'm an incredibly nice and thoughtful guy. People don't believe me when I tell them where I was over the weekend, and they are incredulous when they see it occur. I don't want people to be afraid of me, as some of my friends have obviously become. I know this sounds pathetic, but please, any advice you have would be most welcome.