How do I tell her Grandma doesn't love her?
April 11, 2007 10:25 AM Subscribe
My (widowed) father is divorcing his wife. Dad married her when my daughter was a toddler so she’s the only Grandma she’s had. Grandma has no interest in remaining friendly with our family. How do we tell our daughter that she won’t see her Grandma again without breaking her heart?
posted by Mamapotomus to Human Relations (26 answers total) 5 users marked this as a favorite
My daughter is now 7. She’s very smart but has terrible self-esteem, which is why I’m so worried about handling this wrong. I know she’ll understand that Grandma and Grandpa won’t live together anymore but I don’t know how to explain Grandma cutting contact with us. She’s going to want to know why she can’t visit or call Grandma anymore and I have no idea what to say to keep her feelings from being hurt. How can I tell her that Grandma doesn’t care? I’ve even thought about calling my stepmother and asking her to remain in my daughter’s life, but in the long run I think that will just hurt her worse.
Has anyone else ever been in this situation? Were you a kid who ‘lost’ a family member this way? Is there a way to handle this without my daughter coming to the conclusion that Grandma didn’t love her?