How do I calm irrational pregnancy fears?
March 30, 2007 6:49 PM Subscribe
How do I convince my girlfriend that she's NOT pregnant? We haven't slept together in two months but she's still worried to the point of distraction that she somehow might be pregnant.
posted by anonymous to human relations (72 answers total) 7 users marked this as a favorite
My girlfriend and I have been together for almost 18 months now. Since I'm older than her (I'm 25 and she's 21) and since this has been her first serious (read: sexual) relationship, we took the sexual aspect of our relationship slow. Not long after she decided she wanted to take the plunge, however, she began to obsess about getting pregnant. I assured her we'd only have safe sex, and she got a prescription for the pill. With both a condom and birth control, I kept telling her, it would be incredibly difficult to "have something happen." However even with these precautions, every time we had sex she was so stressed about an accident that she was barely able to sleep. Soon we stopped sleeping together at all.
Two months later, she's still incredibly worried about it. She's often tense and emotionally distant, and her explanation for it is always "the stress," even though we've done nothing more than kiss and cuddle (with clothes on) for the past 60 days or so. Her periods have been completely normal, but she buys a pregnancy test every couple weeks just to "make sure." At this point, I reassure her that--unless she's sleeping with somebody I don't know about--it would be medically impossible for her to get pregnant.
I've tried googling around for advice, but all I find are websites dealing with anxiety in pregnant women. What can I say? What can I do? I love her, and want her to be happy, but our conversations of late have become little more than a loop of her expressions of anxiety and my reassurances. I feel as though we've reached an impasse.