How to face one's dark side?
March 9, 2007 11:02 AM Subscribe
How do I face my dark sides?
posted by catherinem to human relations (23 answers total) 16 users marked this as a favorite
Dear Hive Mind People -
At 35 and having been brought up to be untruthful to myself to function within a Catholic frame, I have spent much time to figure out who I really am and what I really want. Now that I am living through a painful breakup, I am trying again to recognize all those dark sides of mine, about which I am lying to myself, to be able to say more clearly what I want and need.
I have identified this process with C. G. Jung's term of the shadow, which refers to any unwanted qualities that we have stuffed away into a bag of oblivion, mostly as a result of our upbringing. These qualities are 'missing' in our lives if we totally suppress them, and we can recogniye them for example through our intense reactions (both positive and negative) to situations or to people who embody them.
What further ways are there to find out about one's dark sides? More importantly, how can I engage with them, and really incorporate them into my life?
Experiences, suggestions, advice all welcome. Many thanks!