Should I stay with my girlfriend?
February 17, 2007 2:41 PM Subscribe
Is it a bad idea for me to stay with my girlfriend if I see no marriage potential for our relationship? For the record, we're both in our 30's and we've been together for about half a year.
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (23 answers total) 8 users marked this as a favorite
It's come up in conversation a few times that she'd like to be married at some point in her life, though she's always phrased it in general terms rather than specifically saying that she'd like to be married to me at some point (though I get the feeling that may be what she's thinking).
She's very friendly and considerate, and I think that's what's kept us going. However, the long term deal-breaker for me is that she's care-free/apathetic to the extent that she's lacking any sense of initiative. For instance, there was a community event last fall that she really wanted to participate in. She had all the skills and was qualified for it, she just needed to fill out the registration forms beforehand. Registration was open for several months, but the registration deadline just came and went before she got around to doing anything about it. Sigh.
She's nice person and it's fun to hang out with her, but I get the feeling that personal ambition just isn't her thing. So, um, what do I do now? On one hand, I could see myself continuing to float along for the ride, but on the other hand I'm not sure how I feel about doing that since we likely have different ideas about where things are going/aren't-going in the long term.