When is a relationship not a relationship?
February 12, 2007 10:27 PM Subscribe
When is a relationship not a relationship? A casual-sex question.
posted by anonymous to human relations (25 answers total) 13 users marked this as a favorite
Have you ever had an extended (+ 3-month) casual-sex relationship?
If so, how did it evolve and change in the longer term? How did the parties feel about it? Did you feel more conflicted about your status as time passed? How did it end? What would you advise a person who is in a similar situation?
This may seem a bit Chatfiltery, but I'm asking for these anecdotes in order to help sort out my feelings about the situation I find myself in. We've been seeing each other for about 9 months, and I find the prospect of having a one-year anniversary of a casual relationship quite... odd. If I wanted a relationship to develop, would it be doomed by the way it began? Am I in this position because I'm not good enough to be relationship material? Your insight and experience would be useful in figuring out my stance, or whether I should even have a stance.
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