Hallmark or my mark?

January 20, 2007 5:37 PM

I am courting a very busy but totally sweet women while I am also working through a very busy work-life period. I am a male. I have to return a CD she lent me, but I want to include a flirty/funny note inside...

Should I get a hallmark card or should I go the extra mile and do something myself? What do you think I should say/write/do?

posted by parmanparman to Human Relations (24 answers total)

"Nice tunes. Wanna fuck?"
posted by phaedon at 5:41 PM on January 20, 2007 [3 favorites]

Were she not busy, I'd suggest recording a CD with instructions on where to meet you for drinks and dinner and to get her CD back.
posted by bryanzera at 5:42 PM on January 20, 2007 [1 favorite]

What's the CD? You could write a flirty/funny note that refers in some way to the track listing or lyrics of the songs.
posted by Dr. Wu at 5:43 PM on January 20, 2007

"Dear God No" on the Hallmark card.

I would say just skip the card, call her and ask her out. But if you want to go the card route, find something cool and un-cheesy and funny and original. (I can recommend a great store if you're in L.A.)
posted by drjimmy11 at 5:45 PM on January 20, 2007

Make her a mix CD?
posted by thehmsbeagle at 5:46 PM on January 20, 2007

bryanzera nails this one. (and hopefully you will too ;P )
posted by jmnugent at 5:48 PM on January 20, 2007

The problem with the instruction CD idea (and possibly any note left inside the CD case) is this:

I got some CDs back from a friend just before Christmas. Those CDs are still sitting on my kitchen counter exactly where I left them when I brought them home. Unless she has very few CDs, and doesn't have them ripped to something, the likelihood of her actually noticing your efforts are, perhaps, limited.
posted by jacquilynne at 5:57 PM on January 20, 2007

(I do think it's a sweet idea, though!)
posted by jacquilynne at 5:59 PM on January 20, 2007

no hallmark card. maybe a funny doodle on a post-it note, on the outside of the case?
posted by twistofrhyme at 6:01 PM on January 20, 2007

With no clue where you are in the relationship I'd say just put a post-it with 'pitter-patter' handwritten on it.
posted by geekyguy at 6:01 PM on January 20, 2007

Put a note inside. On the outside put a post-it that says: [more inside]

As to what the note on the inside says: I guess that depends upon your intentions. If it's just silly - possibly a "roses are red, violets are blue" type of thing.
posted by fluffy battle kitten at 6:13 PM on January 20, 2007

When you return the CD to her also give her one of your own CDs that she might like. And maybe toss in another CD that's something she'll have never, ever heard before. All she wants to know is that you're thinking of her and as long as you're trading stuff back and forth you'll have plenty of stuff to talk about next time.
posted by nixerman at 6:13 PM on January 20, 2007

What do you think I should say/write/do?

Give more background on the situation before asking for advice.

Baring that, ask her out on a date. She's busy, you're busy, quit screwing around with notes written on a CD
posted by Brandon Blatcher at 7:16 PM on January 20, 2007

Response by poster: we have gone on a few dates. The CD is a Norwegian language learning set. We are both in the same city but don't have a lot of time until we both get away from some heavy workloads come March.
posted by parmanparman at 7:19 PM on January 20, 2007

Best answer: If that is the case, the message obviously has to be in Norwegian. Perhaps some sort of humorously poorly conjugated phrase asking her out for a drink in "the March time"?
posted by rossination at 7:36 PM on January 20, 2007 [1 favorite]

Coffee, tea, or lutefisk?
posted by The Deej at 8:00 PM on January 20, 2007

Response by poster: OK, who knows Norwegian? Because, despite having the tapes for about a month my skills are not up to writing. Maybe, "I am working on my Norwegian. Would you like to go for dinner and a movie in March?"

Or something like that!
posted by parmanparman at 8:01 PM on January 20, 2007

Response by poster: you're comments are still helpful. I haven't really made a decision.
posted by parmanparman at 8:14 PM on January 20, 2007

Are you sure -- I mean, absolutely, positively sure, you aren't actually a character in a romantic comedy?

Norwegian Language Instruction. Cute.




I'm so gonna use that.
posted by unSane at 8:31 PM on January 20, 2007

Response by poster: O.K.! Thanks to everyone especially rossination for your excellent advice. I listened to the CD one last time and came up with a really good four sentence "Meet for Dinner" message.
posted by parmanparman at 8:41 PM on January 20, 2007

Response by poster: Unsane, have you noticed your website in your profile expired?
posted by parmanparman at 8:43 PM on January 20, 2007

Yeah, yeah. I know. I registered it with Network Solutions when I was young and stupid. Now I'm totally fucked trying to transfer it to another registrar because the email address I used to register it no longer works. They want me to fax them my driving licence and a utility bill to verify my ID. Um, rrrright.

I'm camping it on GoDaddy.
posted by unSane at 10:09 PM on January 20, 2007

parmanparman: I saw you came up with a message already, but if you're still looking for a translation of "I am working on my Norwegian. Would you like to go for dinner and a movie in March?", you could say "Jeg jobber med å bli bedre i norsk. Har du lyst til å bli med meg på en middag og gå på kino etterpå en gang i mars?"
posted by flod logic at 12:16 AM on January 21, 2007

I first read that as "I am working on my Norwegian Wood..."

which could work also.
posted by yeti at 1:13 PM on January 21, 2007