January 9, 2007 12:10 PM Subscribe
How can I stop caring so much about the appearance and status of my house and neighborhood?
posted by LoriFLA to Grab Bag (46 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
I don't know why I give a flip, or why it occupies my thoughts, but it does. Every few months feelings of inadequacy start to creep up regarding my house. Thoughts that it isn't good enough or large enough. Regrets that we didn't buy in a better neighborhood back when prices were dirt cheap and we could afford it.
My husband and I put a massive down payment on our house when we bought it eight years ago. We bought within our means, and in less than eight years it will be ours outright. Because of this we have a lot of financial freedom. We are able to travel and I don't have to work if I don't wish to. In spite of this, I am still disenchanted with our house.
I believe materialism and public perception are the main problems here. I feel that because we "settled" others and myself view it as laziness or lack of gumption to buy something bigger, nicer. Even a fixer-upper on a bigger piece of property or closer to the water.
I am sort of embarrassed by this question. I don't want to come off as a materialistic, unsatisfied brat. The house is newish, in a nice, quiet neighborhood. Most of the time I feel that life is good here, I am very fortunate. But these bad feelings about my house continue to be present.
Moving is not an option, since my very practical husband doesn't wish to move, and logically I can't blame him.
How can I get over this ridiculous thinking and become more content with my house?