What's up with my penis?
November 25, 2006 10:54 PM Subscribe
I'm a young guy (19) enjoying the sex for the first time. Awesome! As far as I can tell, it's just about everything I expected. Or rather, it would be if I could keep it up. . .
posted by anonymous to Health & Fitness (30 answers total) 5 users marked this as a favorite
I met a lovely girl. She's pretty much exactly my type, which is great because I've always been a bookish, dorky kind of guy who never thought he'd have the privilege of being with a gorgeous woman exactly his type. The simple act of draping my arm around her neck is enough to call my little soldier to attention. He'll stand stiff and erect for a good, long time without being toyed with and when m'lady and I get to fooling around little buddy stands at the ready.
When the two of us get to the gushier part of our evening — or morning, or afternoon, or lunch break — I'm talking about sex now — I'm usually good to go. Then, to my crushing misfortune, things tend to go soft after we've gotten into the swing of things. This has been happening with fellatio as well.
I just don't get it. At first, I thought this was a performance anxiety thing that I'd get over. When I'm doing the deed, I'm not panicking over, "is this right? Does she like this? Is this how I'm supposed to do it? Shit. Shit. Shit. WhatdoIdo?" It's more like, "oboy! This is it! Feels pretty good, huh? Sounds like she's having a good time too. . .
"in'n'out, in'n'out, in'n'out, mmm'hmm. . . waitaminute. Where'd it go?"
For the record, I've had some success and gotten through with it very enjoyably but I'm pretty certain it's only been during times I was pretty drunk. So what the fuck? It's not as though it doesn't feel good, or I'm not turned on by her or the act. I've made a point of reassuring her it has nothing to do with her. She's much more experienced than I am and has been totally understanding. But this is causing some serious frustration for me, and I suspect for her as well.
So what the fuck? I guess I'm interested in hearing if anyone has had similar problems they've worked out, especially if you were anywhere near as young as I am. I'm supposed to be at my peak, right? I'm a horny young buck, right? This shouldn't be such an issue, right? Right? Am I too young to medicate for this kind of thing? If I did, could I ever wean myself off of it? How can I tell if this is a physical or a mental problem? I don't know if this is of any significance, but my mother's side of the family has a history of (minor) poor circulation. My sister and I have always complained of chronically cold hands and feet. During the cold weather it will take my hands upwards of an hour to warm back up after spending time outside.
-We have been using condoms, even though she is on the pill.
-We have used lubrication.
I'm sorry for the long-winded post. I wanted to cover all the bases from the start since I won't have an opportunity to follow up on this anonymous post. Any leads, suggestions, possible solutions, relevant anecdotes would be well appreciated. Thanks in advance for all responses.
I live in Ontario, by the by.