How do you keep teeth out of the way when giving a blow job?

May 26, 2006 7:01 PM

Should you or shouldn't you cover your teeth with your lips when giving a blow job?

Basically, I always used to put my lips around my teeth for protection, but then I had a boyfriend who said it was much better and softer to just let your lips hang loose and to use your tongue as protection from your lower lips. (This is also how the porn stars seem to do it.) I've tried doing it like that, but I'm just so worried I'll make one wrong move and hurt him. So the question is -- to cover the teeth with my lips or not?? Which feels better? If you don't cover your teeth, how can you know that they won't get in the way--painfully!

posted by mintchip to grab bag (15 answers total)

Ask him?
posted by odinsdream at 7:03 PM on May 26, 2006

It's unlikely you'll do any damage. Just ask for feedback and experiment. Different people will find different things pleasing.
posted by tomble at 7:10 PM on May 26, 2006

I've never covered my teeth (it just seems too unnatural and difficult, somehow, whilst in the midst of business) and never hurt anyone, and I currently have braces to add to the mix (though I will cop to being extremely nervous the first few times all these wires and brackets came into play, as it were). I guess the key is judicious use of the tongue, plus setting the jaw so that you don't accidentally bite down.
posted by scody at 7:12 PM on May 26, 2006

It would seem awkward to be fumbling with your lips when you've got so much else to do.

My mouth, when open wide, the lips extend beyond the teeth. Perhaps your teeth are different, but if I'm worked up, I don't really have to contemplate where things are going. I think like anything else the hornier you are, the more you do it right.

The mouth up and down part, from what I've been told (and course corrected early in my sexual life), isn't the most stimulating part. It's working it with the lips and tongue (and creating some suction if your guy is into that).

From my experience, some guys like suction. Some like the spot under the head stimulated. Some like a wet friction that simulates a sort of hand job. It seems like doing the old lady face with lips over teeth would get in the way of all of those.

The only time teeth ever get in the way is when I'm in an awkward position, say, underneath, and he's moving into my teeth, but never enough to scrape or hurt.

Of course, INA Porn Star and I have small teeth, so your blowjobs may vary.
posted by Gucky at 7:18 PM on May 26, 2006 [2 favorites]

I can't even imagine how you manage to do more than a couple passes with you lips curled up over your teeth--isn't that tiring and uncomfortable? I've read (and my boyfriend has just confirmed) that a tiny bit of tooth even feels good. So don't worry about hurting him, and go ahead and relax a little.
posted by folara at 7:19 PM on May 26, 2006

I'd say it has a lot to do with how much experience you've had at giving. I've had my member savaged by the teeth of the inexperienced. Having said that, if you and your partner are comfortable together go ahead and leave the teeth uncovered, it will open up a whole new range of sensations for him.
posted by lekvar at 7:37 PM on May 26, 2006

As someone who enjoys the giving and receiving of BJs, like Lekvar, I appreciate sensitivity, since I have been close to injured. Generally teeth are not that much of a hazard. You don't need to worry about them, just be a little mindful that you are dealing with a sensitive area.
posted by gesamtkunstwerk at 7:54 PM on May 26, 2006

You're definetly not going to hurt him unless you're trying too.
posted by delmoi at 8:06 PM on May 26, 2006 [1 favorite]

Just relax and keep your mouth open enough so that the teeth aren't in contact with the dick, except maybe occasionally/lightly for a new sensation. Tightening the lips for suction doesn't mean you have to "cover your teeth" by curling your lips over them. That sounds awful, actually, - dry, rough, and not pleasant. You want the *inside* of the mouth to be all over the dick, not the outside.
posted by mediareport at 9:44 PM on May 26, 2006

I've never even tried to curl my lips over my teeth... my lower lip is pierced and that would create one hell of a hazard.

I've used the tongue over lower-teeth method and am just really careful about where my upper teeth are during the proceedings. No complaints thus far.

(There were complaints about the piercing when I had a curved barbell - the beads would sometimes scrape across sensitive areas. Since I got a seamless ring, this has become a non-issue and everyone is happy.)
posted by grapefruitmoon at 12:15 AM on May 27, 2006

MetaFilter: Your blowjobs may vary.

To be contributory: I think it's more of a "the more you think about it, the more likely it is to happen" sort of thing. If you concentrate on making contact with your lips and tongue, and don't think about your chompers, it likely won't happen more than once in a great while.
posted by Mikey-San at 1:03 AM on May 27, 2006

Whenever I see a girl doing the cover-your-teeth-with-your-lips action, I always think "First timer".
posted by Thorzdad at 12:32 PM on May 27, 2006

Original poster here. I just have to say that I am pretty peeved because I developed my technique in part from a book and it gave totally the wrong advice...specificially, that you always cover your teeth with your lips and make the fit as tight as possible! This was from a book on sex tips!! From what I've been hearing I've been doing it wrong all along :(
posted by mintchip at 8:51 PM on May 29, 2006

Don't sweat it, just change your technique (in consultation with the receiver). But in my experience if you worry too much about the lips and the teeth you probably aren't paying enough attention to making it feel good. In other words, not feeling the teeth does not necessarily make for a great bj.
posted by OmieWise at 8:29 AM on May 30, 2006

As I have told a number of women; guys don't call it 'beating Off' because we're being gentle.
posted by DragonBoy at 6:13 PM on June 2, 2006