Looking for specific quote about sharing Happiness and Sorrow; saw here?

January 25, 2024 9:13 AM

paraphrased "If we're friends and you exclude me from celebrations of your happiness that's OK, but if you exclude me from sharing your sorrow I'll be hurt". Thought I saw it recently on Meta or Ask. Sound familiar?

There are _lots_ of quotes about happiness and sorrow/grief, but right now I'm looking for the one described, or closely adjacent. Thanks

posted by achrise to Religion & Philosophy (2 answers total)

Best answer: Is it Oscar Wilde from De Profundis?

If a friend of mine gave a feast, and did not invite me to it, I should not mind a bit. but if a friend of mine had a sorrow and refused to allow me to share it, I should feel it most bitterly. If he shut the doors of the house of mourning against me, I would move back again and again and beg to be admitted so that I might share in what I was entitled to share. If he thought me unworthy, unfit to weep with him, I should feel it as the most poignant humiliation.
posted by matcha action at 10:31 AM on January 25 [5 favorites]

Response by poster: That's it! Thanks
posted by achrise at 10:37 AM on January 25