What dating site do queer people in Boston use?

June 12, 2023 2:39 AM

I’m a mid-30s queer woman moving to Boston. I won’t have much of an in-person community at first but I’m interested in dating (specifically women and gendernonconforming folks). Which dating app would you recommend?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (6 answers total)

I can’t speak to apps, but if you’re at all interested in the drag and burlesque scene, it’s where a lot of creative, queer femmes and thems are doing a lot of socializing, mixing, and playing.
posted by spindrifter at 3:53 AM on June 12, 2023 [2 favorites]

I can’t speak in general, but I know a friend there who would potentially be in your dating pool and they mostly talk about Lex.
posted by Stacey at 4:04 AM on June 12, 2023 [2 favorites]

I'm sure there's some nuance across different cities, but as a nonbinary asexual mid-30s person... I honestly haven't yet found an app that I love for online dating. In my prior cis woman life, I used OKCupid a ton and met several partners there. I've continued using OKC but in my city there aren't a ton of queer women/GNC folks on it. Tried Lex (too focused on sex for my tastes), Tinder (so many couples looking for a third), and Hinge (even fewer people than OKC) and didn't like any of those, either. Curious to hear what others have to say for Boston but also broadly!
posted by anotheraccount at 6:05 AM on June 12, 2023 [1 favorite]

Check Facebook for local queer groups, sometimes they have singles groups that you can join. I've also heard of (but not tried) Her, Fem, Lesly, and PinkCupid.
posted by ananci at 7:34 AM on June 12, 2023

Feeld, Lex, OKC, Tinder, Hinge. Not just one but all five. Fetlife for events if you’re kinky or poly. And do gay stuff to meet people in person!
posted by lloquat at 11:58 AM on June 12, 2023

Lex is very active in Boston though it skews young and social. Hinge, Tinder and Bumble are all reasonably popular. Depending on your interests there are a lot of queer sports leagues and some Instagram accounts that share events that are good for meeting people.
posted by martinX's bellbottoms at 8:13 AM on June 13, 2023