what to do when you find out your teen have been smoking pot?
May 1, 2006 4:52 AM Subscribe
What are the appropriate next steps for a divorced parent to take when she finds out that her 16 year old son has been smoking pot for the last year?
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This weekend I received my first phone call to come pick up my son from the police station for possession of drug paraphernalia i.e.: pipe. A situation where a busted tail light was the catalyst for his buddy being pulled over. In hind sight, I now realize that during the past year that perhaps my son's increase in mood swings, decrease in grades, and increase in rebellion may be connected with his new hobby.
In the post retrieval-sit down discussion-my son admitted that he has been smoking since sometime last year. The most recent frequency is about once a week. I'm not totally convinced that I have all the facts yet. He says that the pipe was not his; he was merely hiding it when the cop pulled his friend over.
Unfortunately, I have no personal experience with drugs. Somehow I went all the way through college and was only offered pot once -- at one retreat during my senior year of high school.
Doubly unfortunately, his dad has a tremendous background with drug use. The dad appears to be more concerned that our son was caught... and the dad tells our son how he should of just kicked the pipe under the car seat.
So, the question(s): son has been issued a citation with fine and notice to appear (Wisconsin)... what can I expect? What are appropriate next steps at home for consequences? What do I do parentally to better insure that this experimentation does not lead to darker, worse experiences?
(My son has his driver's permit. However, prior to this incident he was told that he will not be allowed to get his license nor to have his own car unless he has a B average in school.)