After deciding to contact an old flame who had, years ago, asked me not to contact her again, tonight I received a phone message from a police officer in the town where she evidently lives now, reminding me that I had just gone against that request she had made in 2002 (in a completely different jurisdiction), and that any further contact with her could result in arrest for harassment. The officer also mentioned a restraining order that had been secured against me in the previous jurisdiction, and that it still applied even though this girl now lives in an entirely different state. I am awaiting a call back from this officer, who I hope will provide me with some further clarification, but his reference in the first call to a restraining order came as a complete surprise.
I'm not interested in this response: Why did you contact her if you knew she didn't want you to contact her?
Years ago, she had told me she didn't want to have anything to do with me. Over the last five years, she has regularly visited my blog—more recently, attempting to do so through an anonymous service that doesn't work as well as she thinks
. I've objected all along to being told to leave her alone while she has continued seemingly conducting surveillance on me, and this week I decided enough was enough. Part of me thinks it's paranoiac of me to suggest she's been spying on me all this time, watching to see what I'll do. But if what she's been doing hasn't been some form of surveillance, of checking up on me periodically, I can't think of any other reason that someone who requested I leave her alone, and who then went so far as to seek a restraining order against me, would be so keenly interested in what I'm up to—and would try to be so sneaky about it, snooping around "anonymously."
Obviously, I've learned a lesson: don't do that again. Got it. But apart from that, what can/should I do? Is it reasonable for me to request a copy of any documentation this officer or the officer who originally handled her case might have? It seems rather unfair that, for however many years (I don't know when the restraining order was requested, and it has been about five years since this girl and I last talked) I have been unaware of exactly how much trouble I could cause for myself.