Before I hit the big '30'
January 8, 2006 6:52 AM Subscribe
What am I doing wrong and why should 'I' change and need I even ought to, in the first place ? Some advice before I hit the big '30'..
posted by sk381 to human relations (21 answers total) 6 users marked this as a favorite
I have a tendency to get attached (in both romantic terms and otherwise) to people more easily than most others. Not the most pragmatic habit to have, I know, as one invariably ends up with a greater share of letdowns and not just in relationships. But I 'really' believe there are some things in life that are worth trying harder for and we just live once and we need to make the most of it and all that jazz. I don't want to live my life as a series of 'what-ifs'. But it has come to mean that I'm almost invariably the one who has to go the extra mile. Shades of the 'Nice Guy' syndrome, I guess, but I'm sure there is more to me that being a stereotype.
I am going to turn 30 soon and though still far from jaded, the pain takes longer to go away now. A little introspection seems to be in order.
So am I 'wrong' in the way I approach life? What does this say about me? Clingy, needy, some other hole in my personality? I would like to think I'm none of these but one can hardly be objectively about oneself.
Not looking for a solution so much as advice from the collective wisdom of AskMe-Fi. Psych. majors and armchair philosophers, please feel free to counsel at length.