How to gracefully answer what I like to do for fun when I don't?
December 10, 2015 5:35 PM Subscribe
If I'm not at work, running an errand, or fulfilling a social commitment, I'm at home. And at home I'm not engaging in any interesting solitary hobbies. My spare time is spent mostly surfing the Web and watching Netflix. I feel very uncomfortable when asked what I do during my free time, such as when I'm asked on Monday what I did over the weekend and when I'm meeting someone new. What are some ways that I can answer this question without sounding defensive, evasive, or shameful?
Response by poster: I can't help posting a followup just to correct myself about writing shameful when I meant to write ashamed.
posted by ionnin at 5:44 PM on December 10, 2015 [1 favorite]
posted by ionnin at 5:44 PM on December 10, 2015 [1 favorite]
When people ask me what I did over the weekend, I'm generally honest: "oh, you know, cleaned the house, ran some errands, read a book, watched some Netflix." I don't think that most people have super exciting hobbies. At least, most people in my social circle don't. Once you get past a certain age, to be honest most people don't have a lot of time for hobbies other than schlepping kids to choir practice and trying to maintain some semblance of domestic order. I agree that you can answer the "what do you do with your free time" question by mentioning something that you've watched on Netflix recently.
posted by ArbitraryAndCapricious at 5:50 PM on December 10, 2015 [3 favorites]
posted by ArbitraryAndCapricious at 5:50 PM on December 10, 2015 [3 favorites]
I mean, by 'fulfilling a social commitment,' don't you just mean meeting up with friends? Say that!
posted by pretentious illiterate at 5:50 PM on December 10, 2015 [1 favorite]
posted by pretentious illiterate at 5:50 PM on December 10, 2015 [1 favorite]
Seriously, just own what you do and say it without embarrassment or shame or, if you want to have something more interesting to talk about, go out and do something more interesting. I think I get where you're coming from, because I used to worry that people would find out how boring I was, but then I realized most people don't actually care, and most people are actually also boring.
I mean, I do have arguably interesting hobbies but honestly most Mondays if you ask me what I did over the weekend the answer would be some combination of tv, reading, and maybe shopping (like grocery shopping, not even interesting shopping).
posted by mskyle at 5:51 PM on December 10, 2015 [1 favorite]
I mean, I do have arguably interesting hobbies but honestly most Mondays if you ask me what I did over the weekend the answer would be some combination of tv, reading, and maybe shopping (like grocery shopping, not even interesting shopping).
posted by mskyle at 5:51 PM on December 10, 2015 [1 favorite]
LOTS of people stay home and watch Netflix on weekends. If someone told me they spent all weekend binging Jessica Jones or whatever, I'd totally get it and also want to talk about it. I personally have also gotten to the point where when people ask me what I like to do for fun, part of what I say is, "I LOVE TV." Because I do, and so do a lot of other people. When I was binging Breaking Bad, for example, I used to literally leave social events by saying, "I have to go. I'm in the middle of catching up on Breaking Bad on Netflix." Almost everyone would be like, "OOOOOH WHAT PART ARE YOU UP TO?" No one thought I was lame to go home and watch TV. (But also if they did, I don't care because I don't really want to be friends with those people anyway.)
Staying home to noodle around on the internet and watch Netflix is very common and nothing to feel ashamed of!
(Now, of course, if you wish you had OTHER stuff to do than Netflix and you feel unhappy that you don't, that's a whole other question.)
posted by Countess Sandwich at 5:54 PM on December 10, 2015 [6 favorites]
Staying home to noodle around on the internet and watch Netflix is very common and nothing to feel ashamed of!
(Now, of course, if you wish you had OTHER stuff to do than Netflix and you feel unhappy that you don't, that's a whole other question.)
posted by Countess Sandwich at 5:54 PM on December 10, 2015 [6 favorites]
On Mondays following weekends that I have essentially spent sleeping and eating ice cream, I always say, "Oh, just kept very quiet, just to recharge my batteries, you know!" People really don't gaf what I did or didn't do, and if you say, "How about you?" they forget you didn't answer them in their rush to tell you their exciting dishwashing tales or fascinating trips to the deli or what have you.
posted by janey47 at 5:55 PM on December 10, 2015 [18 favorites]
posted by janey47 at 5:55 PM on December 10, 2015 [18 favorites]
You can say generic things like "I spent the weekend quietly. I enjoyed having some down time." Or "I slept in! It was great!" Or you can pull out specifics of something in particular you did online like "Read up on the latest research on dinosaur eggs. Interestingly, I learned that Japan has relatively few fossils, in part because of the volcanic soil." Or "I watched X movie for the tenth time. It is my all time favorite. It continues to surprise me with details I missed before. I am just such a fan of (lead actor's name). He also did (some other movie). A lot of people do not recognize him in that because they did such a great job turning him into an alien...."
People are usually just trying to make conversation. It isn't a test to pass. There is no standard weekend activity metric to be measured by. Whatever you did, just be chatty and warm and find some way to turn it into an ice breaker.
Other people eat, sleep, surf the web, and watch shows. There are plenty of openings there for starting a conversation. That's usually the primary reason they are asking.
posted by Michele in California at 6:00 PM on December 10, 2015 [9 favorites]
People are usually just trying to make conversation. It isn't a test to pass. There is no standard weekend activity metric to be measured by. Whatever you did, just be chatty and warm and find some way to turn it into an ice breaker.
Other people eat, sleep, surf the web, and watch shows. There are plenty of openings there for starting a conversation. That's usually the primary reason they are asking.
posted by Michele in California at 6:00 PM on December 10, 2015 [9 favorites]
What did you do this weekend?
"I did NOTHING! (Smile, chuckle) nah, the week gets so crazy and scheduled that I love those weekends where I just get to catch up on stuff, do some reading, and just enjoy being home. It's so important to relax and digest life sometimes."
What do you like to do for fun?
"I always find this question interesting. I love lots of things, but I hate feeling like I have to rattle off a list. I love the spontaneity of enjoying unscheduled activities in my free time like reading, watching movies, unwinding, you know, recharging and living in the moment when I'm not answering to the man at work."
posted by floweredfish at 6:01 PM on December 10, 2015 [3 favorites]
"I did NOTHING! (Smile, chuckle) nah, the week gets so crazy and scheduled that I love those weekends where I just get to catch up on stuff, do some reading, and just enjoy being home. It's so important to relax and digest life sometimes."
What do you like to do for fun?
"I always find this question interesting. I love lots of things, but I hate feeling like I have to rattle off a list. I love the spontaneity of enjoying unscheduled activities in my free time like reading, watching movies, unwinding, you know, recharging and living in the moment when I'm not answering to the man at work."
posted by floweredfish at 6:01 PM on December 10, 2015 [3 favorites]
You and I have very similar weekends. When people ask me what I did over the weekend, I say "Not much, it was pretty low-key." Honestly, people don't seem judgey about it at all. In fact, 9 times out of 10 they actually express jealousy, especially if they've just gotten done telling you about how they had to shuttle this kid to a soccer game and that kid to a swim meet and on and on and on.
posted by mudpuppie at 6:13 PM on December 10, 2015 [13 favorites]
posted by mudpuppie at 6:13 PM on December 10, 2015 [13 favorites]
If I prefer to keep things vague, I like to say "low key," like I had a pretty low key weekend, and was able to relax a bit. I feel like it's a useful euphemism for nothing!
posted by leedly at 6:13 PM on December 10, 2015 [1 favorite]
posted by leedly at 6:13 PM on December 10, 2015 [1 favorite]
(And if you happen to tell someone that you took a nap, they may positively swoon with envy.)
posted by mudpuppie at 6:13 PM on December 10, 2015 [4 favorites]
posted by mudpuppie at 6:13 PM on December 10, 2015 [4 favorites]
My friend is suffering from some serious depression and anhedonia, so she quite literally does not like to do anything. When her friends and family ask her what she has been up to, it can be a real downer to respond, "Oh, nothing much. I mean, really, nothing. I literally do nothing all day. It's a success when I put on pants."
She finds that a quick, "Oh, nothing much, just getting caught up on Netflix! What have YOU been doing?" is a great way to keep the conversation moving. People like to talk about themselves more anyway.
But I agree, nothing to be ashamed of!
posted by chainsofreedom at 6:15 PM on December 10, 2015 [4 favorites]
She finds that a quick, "Oh, nothing much, just getting caught up on Netflix! What have YOU been doing?" is a great way to keep the conversation moving. People like to talk about themselves more anyway.
But I agree, nothing to be ashamed of!
posted by chainsofreedom at 6:15 PM on December 10, 2015 [4 favorites]
If I said this it'd likely be because I was fishing for some kind of shared interest or conversation topic. Just pick something you don't mind talking about a little more. And, really, the most tenuous connection to your weekend is fine, it's none of my business if you don't want to talk about that. "Eh, not much, but you know what I read about yesterday?...".
posted by bfields at 6:16 PM on December 10, 2015 [2 favorites]
posted by bfields at 6:16 PM on December 10, 2015 [2 favorites]
When people ask me what I did this past weekend, I say "nothing, and it was great".
You could also say you were catching up on your shows. People love to talk about the shows they're watching.
posted by LoveHam at 6:42 PM on December 10, 2015 [2 favorites]
You could also say you were catching up on your shows. People love to talk about the shows they're watching.
posted by LoveHam at 6:42 PM on December 10, 2015 [2 favorites]
How to gracefully answer what I like to do for fun when I don't?
But you do.
My spare time is spent mostly surfing the Web and watching Netflix.
This is what you do for fun. If you want, you can put a spin on it "I'm a pop culture junkie - I love TV shows and movies. I watched this great new show on the weekend..."
I watch a lot of netflix too. I have spent entire days indoors when the sun is shining and the sky is blue, binge watching a great TV show or playing an engrossing video game. If people ask, that's what I tell them. Or something to the effect of "I just chilled out at home, it was highly enjoyable". No one has ever given me grief about it. I don't think people really care in any case - it's just small talk.
You don't need to apologise for liking the things you like.
posted by His thoughts were red thoughts at 6:54 PM on December 10, 2015 [1 favorite]
But you do.
My spare time is spent mostly surfing the Web and watching Netflix.
This is what you do for fun. If you want, you can put a spin on it "I'm a pop culture junkie - I love TV shows and movies. I watched this great new show on the weekend..."
I watch a lot of netflix too. I have spent entire days indoors when the sun is shining and the sky is blue, binge watching a great TV show or playing an engrossing video game. If people ask, that's what I tell them. Or something to the effect of "I just chilled out at home, it was highly enjoyable". No one has ever given me grief about it. I don't think people really care in any case - it's just small talk.
You don't need to apologise for liking the things you like.
posted by His thoughts were red thoughts at 6:54 PM on December 10, 2015 [1 favorite]
When meeting someone new who asks what you do for fun, a situation when you'd probably want to present yourself in a more interesting light than usual, try saying "I'm a movie buff." It's truthful but sounds a little fancy.
posted by ejs at 6:58 PM on December 10, 2015 [1 favorite]
posted by ejs at 6:58 PM on December 10, 2015 [1 favorite]
I just say I relaxed all weekend and got stuff done around the house.
posted by whoaali at 7:08 PM on December 10, 2015
posted by whoaali at 7:08 PM on December 10, 2015
My answer is that I say, "I party at home!" Because it's true. I am lucky to have a home where I can rock out to my heart's delight, I know so many people who don't even have the privilege to even have a place and schedule where they could comfortably stay at home.
There's nothing wrong with what you are doing right now. I'm fairly enthusiastic about my time at home where I am busy doing a lot of cool things, either working on projects or watching media or cleaning the house, and if all else fails, I mention MetaFilter and how awesome of a place it is, and that they should check it out. Enthusiasm is good.
posted by yueliang at 7:43 PM on December 10, 2015 [2 favorites]
There's nothing wrong with what you are doing right now. I'm fairly enthusiastic about my time at home where I am busy doing a lot of cool things, either working on projects or watching media or cleaning the house, and if all else fails, I mention MetaFilter and how awesome of a place it is, and that they should check it out. Enthusiasm is good.
posted by yueliang at 7:43 PM on December 10, 2015 [2 favorites]
No one cares about your answers to these things or judges you on them. They just want an easy topic of conversation/connection. You could just say "I read this fascinating article on/watched this show ...", describe it a bit and then ask about their thoughts. If they've read it too or have specific knowledge in the area then the conversation may actually go somewhere but if not one of you will move to the next conversational item ("how about that weather", etc).
posted by any portmanteau in a storm at 7:56 PM on December 10, 2015 [2 favorites]
posted by any portmanteau in a storm at 7:56 PM on December 10, 2015 [2 favorites]
People judge answers to questions like this based on your tone. Phrase your vegging out positively and they'll respond as though it's the greatest thing ever.
Your embarrassment might however be coming from having the same answer (and an idle sounding one) every weekend. Console yourself with the thought that most people spend their weekends doing things like cleaning the garage, which may be a worthwhile activity but is unlikely to be the one they remember on their deathbeds or put in their memoirs. Most people spend their downtime doing meaningless and uninteresting (to others) things, whether it's internet surfing, mowing lawns or dusting their stamp collection.
posted by tavegyl at 8:19 PM on December 10, 2015 [1 favorite]
Your embarrassment might however be coming from having the same answer (and an idle sounding one) every weekend. Console yourself with the thought that most people spend their weekends doing things like cleaning the garage, which may be a worthwhile activity but is unlikely to be the one they remember on their deathbeds or put in their memoirs. Most people spend their downtime doing meaningless and uninteresting (to others) things, whether it's internet surfing, mowing lawns or dusting their stamp collection.
posted by tavegyl at 8:19 PM on December 10, 2015 [1 favorite]
Agreed that you're not required to carry on a conversation about whatever it is you did. "The internet sucked me in" is a fine answer to how you spent your weekend, and can cover everything from reading political news about constitutional law to playing Candy Crush while making faked Instagram selfies. The key point to this simple answer not making you sound lame (if, say, you're on a date) is that you don't act embarrassed about it, and if you're able to hold up a conversation about things that are not "what you like to do in your free time". I do very poorly with classic conversation-starter questions (any plans for the weekend? what's you favorite book/movie/band) but I do really well with general conversation, because I waste a ton of time on the internet and read things (that are not celebrity gossip or politics) so that I have little "oh that reminds of this thing I saw" moments constantly. If you feel good about your general conversational ability, you learn to basically shrug off questions like this as being irrelevant.
posted by aimedwander at 8:23 PM on December 10, 2015
posted by aimedwander at 8:23 PM on December 10, 2015
I'm in a similar position and can feel lost for words or, afterwards, feel like I could have come off better than I did with regards to relaying that weekends and "free time" are my easy relaxation time.
Do you feel good about your time spent outside your regular commitments? If you do, regardless of what you're doing, that's the component to focus on when you're put on the spot by inquiring minds. Pick on one or two things, big or small, you enjoyed or appreciated about the weekend and share that. Staying focused on those one or two things will prevent you from either sharing more than you're comfortable with or getting caught off guard with not living up to expected standards of hipness. Most likely, your colleagues are just being friendly and showing an interest in getting to know you better as a person. Or maybe they are judgey, and in that case, who gives two hoots.
Even if you aren't committed to an ongoing activity or hobby or some socially accepted concept of how free time "should" be spent, there are ways to avoid sounding like you have nothing going on or aren't working towards something you care about. Especially because engaging in self-care (whatever form that takes) is an ongoing activity of very high importance, and that's deserves kudos!
My advice is to work on crafting your own consistent narrative of "you" and keep refining it until you figure out the narrative that 1. always makes you feel good about you and 2. always makes you feel great about the way you're coming across to others.
posted by Goblin Barbarian at 8:48 PM on December 10, 2015
Do you feel good about your time spent outside your regular commitments? If you do, regardless of what you're doing, that's the component to focus on when you're put on the spot by inquiring minds. Pick on one or two things, big or small, you enjoyed or appreciated about the weekend and share that. Staying focused on those one or two things will prevent you from either sharing more than you're comfortable with or getting caught off guard with not living up to expected standards of hipness. Most likely, your colleagues are just being friendly and showing an interest in getting to know you better as a person. Or maybe they are judgey, and in that case, who gives two hoots.
Even if you aren't committed to an ongoing activity or hobby or some socially accepted concept of how free time "should" be spent, there are ways to avoid sounding like you have nothing going on or aren't working towards something you care about. Especially because engaging in self-care (whatever form that takes) is an ongoing activity of very high importance, and that's deserves kudos!
My advice is to work on crafting your own consistent narrative of "you" and keep refining it until you figure out the narrative that 1. always makes you feel good about you and 2. always makes you feel great about the way you're coming across to others.
posted by Goblin Barbarian at 8:48 PM on December 10, 2015
Your weekends sound relaxing. I'm jealous and other people will be too. Say, "I spent the weekend relaxing."
posted by Toddles at 9:20 PM on December 10, 2015
posted by Toddles at 9:20 PM on December 10, 2015
Most people do nothing, or simple relaxing things, on their time off. Most people don't really go skydiving and rock-climbing and rollerblading every night.
Facebook is a pit of lies.
posted by rokusan at 9:52 PM on December 10, 2015 [7 favorites]
Facebook is a pit of lies.
posted by rokusan at 9:52 PM on December 10, 2015 [7 favorites]
Sometimes I do fun outside-the-house shit on weekends, and sometimes I literally do laundry and watch a season of something. And you know what? In the Monday morning office chitchat Olympics, I get the most envious reactions when I've had the second kind of weekend. Honestly I do. People LOVE doing nothing. It's not just you!
posted by showbiz_liz at 10:32 PM on December 10, 2015
posted by showbiz_liz at 10:32 PM on December 10, 2015
"What do you do for fun?"
"Mostly low-key, relaxing stuff like watch Netflix and cross things off my weekly to-do list. What about you?"
posted by tackypink at 10:39 PM on December 10, 2015
"Mostly low-key, relaxing stuff like watch Netflix and cross things off my weekly to-do list. What about you?"
posted by tackypink at 10:39 PM on December 10, 2015
After they talk about their action-filled weekend, you can say: "I had the best weekend - I think I watched Netflix for like 24 hours straight and ate ice cream in bed and then slept for another 24 hours straight."
Or "Oh, for me it was just Netflix, I probably literally saw like 32 hours of Netflix. I think I beat my personal record, but I'll try again next weekend."
posted by Dragonness at 11:55 PM on December 10, 2015 [1 favorite]
Or "Oh, for me it was just Netflix, I probably literally saw like 32 hours of Netflix. I think I beat my personal record, but I'll try again next weekend."
posted by Dragonness at 11:55 PM on December 10, 2015 [1 favorite]
"Got my House of Cards on, and drank shots every time someone on Naked and Afraid told us how resourceful and self reliant they are. Good times."
posted by honey-barbara at 11:59 PM on December 10, 2015
posted by honey-barbara at 11:59 PM on December 10, 2015
I think it does depend on the audience. Lots of my actual friends would think that Netflix and the Internet is a great answer but if I told my older colleagues at work that they would be concerned and think I was depressed or incredibly vapid or something. It's easy to say 'whatevs' to that but it's not always that straightforward. In my job (English teacher) the more conservative staff members are quite professionally judgemental about low or pop culture and it is not always a hill I want to die on. Instead, I choose some version of the truth to suit them- I emphasise the part where I caught up with family or took my daughter to the park or read a new book. I just edit as necessary.
For ppl who just expect me to be a hipster doing 'creative' things all the time I just insist on telling them the truth because I do want to challenge their pretentious crappy judgement.
And regularly enough, someone who I thought was like that will say 'OH JESSICA JONES' and we're off.
posted by jojobobo at 1:00 AM on December 11, 2015 [1 favorite]
For ppl who just expect me to be a hipster doing 'creative' things all the time I just insist on telling them the truth because I do want to challenge their pretentious crappy judgement.
And regularly enough, someone who I thought was like that will say 'OH JESSICA JONES' and we're off.
posted by jojobobo at 1:00 AM on December 11, 2015 [1 favorite]
I'm pretty similar these days. I usually say "Oh nothing special" or "Bingewatched xxx on netflix, it's such a good show".
If I'm not feeling particularly defensive :-), I'll then ask what the other person did... it's a good way to get to know them and move onto another topic.
posted by watrlily at 2:00 AM on December 11, 2015
If I'm not feeling particularly defensive :-), I'll then ask what the other person did... it's a good way to get to know them and move onto another topic.
posted by watrlily at 2:00 AM on December 11, 2015
Best answer: You: "Nothing much. Netflix, killing time online."
Me: OH MY GOD A NORMAL PERSON LET'S TALK ABOUT HOW WE'RE NOT BUILDING A COMMUNITY GARDEN OR TRAINING FOR TRIATHLONS
posted by obiwanwasabi at 2:48 AM on December 11, 2015 [34 favorites]
Me: OH MY GOD A NORMAL PERSON LET'S TALK ABOUT HOW WE'RE NOT BUILDING A COMMUNITY GARDEN OR TRAINING FOR TRIATHLONS
posted by obiwanwasabi at 2:48 AM on December 11, 2015 [34 favorites]
'Farting about' is my favourite answer to this question, although that probably doesn't make me sound windswept and interesting either (well, maybe windswept but not in a good way).
posted by h00py at 6:13 AM on December 11, 2015 [3 favorites]
posted by h00py at 6:13 AM on December 11, 2015 [3 favorites]
I've lived through approximately 2,450 weekends and I say, "Nothing exciting, just trying to catch up on life outside of work like cleaning!" Or sometimes I say "I didn't need you to bail me out so I was behaving myself."
Mostly, I am envious (ond many people I know are) of someone who watches Netflix and surfing the internet. I wouldn't be ashamed of that. The question is, how far do you want the conversation to go? Here are a few ideas:
Rocking my jammies.
Experiencing what exciting things people do around while sipping tea on my sofa.
Not thinking about work.
Working on the carpal tunnel.
Being a bum.
Vegging out.
My favorite thing...a whole lotta nothin'!
posted by Yellow at 6:31 AM on December 11, 2015
Mostly, I am envious (ond many people I know are) of someone who watches Netflix and surfing the internet. I wouldn't be ashamed of that. The question is, how far do you want the conversation to go? Here are a few ideas:
Rocking my jammies.
Experiencing what exciting things people do around while sipping tea on my sofa.
Not thinking about work.
Working on the carpal tunnel.
Being a bum.
Vegging out.
My favorite thing...a whole lotta nothin'!
posted by Yellow at 6:31 AM on December 11, 2015
Most adults do nothing over the weekend. To badly quote John Mulaney, if you ask an adult what they did over the weekend and they said they didn't do anything their faces light up.
Maybe flip this anxiety around. If you're chatting to someone, and you ask them about their weekend or what they do for fun, what kind of response do you expect? How do you feel about them if they shrug and reply 'eh, TV mostly'? Probably totally fine.
posted by nerdfish at 6:48 AM on December 11, 2015
Maybe flip this anxiety around. If you're chatting to someone, and you ask them about their weekend or what they do for fun, what kind of response do you expect? How do you feel about them if they shrug and reply 'eh, TV mostly'? Probably totally fine.
posted by nerdfish at 6:48 AM on December 11, 2015
For work people I usually say something like "I just had a much needed lazy weekend, lounged around, watched netflix." As said above there is usually an insane amount of jealousy that comes from the other person (especially when they have kids). I can literally use that every weekend and no one notices, that's because no one actually cares what you did over the weekend, it is just a variation on "Hi, how are you?" most of the time.
When it is actually someone you want to talk to, go into more detail, that show that you binged this weekend because it is awesome. Like obiwan said above, the people you actually want to talk to are probably people who did the same thing over the weekend so no shame. The people who worked in their community garden really just want you to get to the part where you ask them what they did over the weekend.
posted by magnetsphere at 7:55 AM on December 11, 2015
When it is actually someone you want to talk to, go into more detail, that show that you binged this weekend because it is awesome. Like obiwan said above, the people you actually want to talk to are probably people who did the same thing over the weekend so no shame. The people who worked in their community garden really just want you to get to the part where you ask them what they did over the weekend.
posted by magnetsphere at 7:55 AM on December 11, 2015
I'm pretty sure people who have "interesting solitary hobbies" aren't working on them ten hours a day all weekend, and most of their time off is spent doing the same "nothing" you're doing, whenever possible. So you don't have to feel intimidated by people who do "interesting" things, because it's more than likely that they spent like maximum four hours on it on Sunday afternoon, and the rest of their weekend was laundry and Netflix just like you.
"Decompressing" is my go-to description for a day off doing nothing.
posted by soundguy99 at 8:40 AM on December 11, 2015 [1 favorite]
"Decompressing" is my go-to description for a day off doing nothing.
posted by soundguy99 at 8:40 AM on December 11, 2015 [1 favorite]
I tend to go with "puttering about the house" as a catch-all unless I did some Nameable Project.
posted by bookdragoness at 8:26 PM on December 11, 2015
posted by bookdragoness at 8:26 PM on December 11, 2015
People who ask are trying to be nice. The details of your answer don't matter. Whatever you answer, add Thanks for asking. How about you? to be nice back to them. If, and only if, you want to develop friendships, learn to add some details and questions - Watched Jessica Jones on Netflix - Have you seen it? I loved/ hated it. and go from there, over time.
posted by theora55 at 10:42 AM on December 12, 2015
posted by theora55 at 10:42 AM on December 12, 2015
The middle of John Mulaney's stand-up bit about doing nothing is directly on point.
posted by andoatnp at 10:43 AM on December 12, 2015
posted by andoatnp at 10:43 AM on December 12, 2015
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posted by rhythm_queen at 5:39 PM on December 10, 2015 [12 favorites]