Am I fooling myself in that I can get justice?
September 5, 2014 6:03 AM Subscribe
I was forced out of my job about a year ago. I am being treated for PTSD due to the crappy way I was treated. The ongoing symptoms and the waiting to hear back from the latest lawyer that I gave all my info to have a ripple effect in how I am dealing with personal relationships including my marriage. Am I foolishly expecting too much here in that I will get justice?
posted by comicgirl001 to Work & Money (19 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
I was good at my job, I worked for the company for over 6 years. I was the only woman in the sales department. I know that I was being paid less than a man that that the same job description as me. I was constantly denied raises in salary, there were blanket cost of living adjustments across the whole company, but nothing for me based on my value to the company. Even after training, additional responsibilities, and great profits on all of my sales. I was treated like I was not at the same level as all the male staff in meetings and was out on my own most of the time.
Things really took a turn for the worse when my husband and I got pregnant and then welcomed our first child. I was not allowed the same accommodations that a man was a few years earlier for a flexible schedule where I would work from home half of the day.
I was forced to clock out for breaks to express milk for my daughter while I was at the office. I would later be charged PTO time for this as I would fall below 40 hours, I was salaried. I was not allowed to make up for this shortage at home, even though I had the ability to do so and all other sales staff were able to do this. I was unable to continue nursing my daughter.
My job duties changed. I was constantly being picked on for things outside of my control.
I was given an ultimatum either improve my attitude, or I would be gone. I was not able to speak up for myself. After a horrible "meeting" where everything that I worked so hard for was destroyed by accusations and untrue statements, I was asked if I still wanted to work for them. I am embarrassed to say that after an hour break where my husband coached me, I went back into that place and said yes. That I still wanted to work for them and make them money, like I always had.
During all of this I was interviewing and got another job. When I resigned to my supervisor I cried. My formal resignation letter was short as I needed a week to close projects and to be earning that salary.
I am appreciated at my new job, I earn a better salary, I have a much further commute so I have little time with my family during the week. All of which "doesn't help me" according to most of the lawyers I have already spoken with.
I tried to move in with my life. I would have panic attacks every time someone from my former employer would look at my Linked In profile. I would have panic attacks just while making dinner. I was prescribed antidepressants, and started talk therapy.
I found out through a chance encounter with a former coworker that there the head of HR, who I know was the reason why my life became so hard there, was dismissed. Their spouse had been stealing from the company. If I had still been employed for them, I would have noticed it for sure as one of the new jobs for me after I came back from leave was to inventory stock that was being stolen.
I documented all of this very well with supporting documents, dates, and other evidence.
I am ready for the "trauma that will resurface" as it hasn't gone away for me. It's there as a constant reminder when I drive around where their office is or I see something about the company cross my newsfeed. The anger of not being able to nurse my daughter resurfaces every time I see a study about the benefits of nursing babies to one year or whenever.
This is the background, this is my story. Am I totally off-base thinking that a lawyer would take my case of wrongful termination and workplace harassment? I need some feedback to see if anyone else thinks that this is worth pursuing. Or am I just going to come out looking bad/greedy?