I Want to Have Opinions
August 9, 2014 3:28 PM Subscribe
Is there a way to be opinionated without being obnoxious? What are the dos and dont's?
posted by Fairchild to Human Relations (20 answers total) 21 users marked this as a favorite
I find myself being neutral on most subjects out of respect for my friends and family and acquaintances. I'm also neutral or ambivalent on a lot of topics because frankly, if I don't know much about a subject, I don't like to form an opinion and I certainly don't state an opinion.
I find that it's boring and I'm tired of not having opinions. In the past I had a lot of opinions about food or music or daily life. Examples: "Who doesn't like onions and garlic?" "There's something wrong with a person if they don't like Motown" or "I can't take people who don't eat vegetables." Stuff like that but for the longest time I haven't said things like this. In my twenties and for some of my thirties I was always running my mouth and in an effort not to be annoying, I've become more understanding and mellow. If you don't like Motown, well that's okay, we can still be friends. I'm still live and let live and very easygoing. I'm almost too low-key and I don't like it. I would like to say more of what I'm thinking. I think that is the main thing. I would like to say more of what I'm thinking but I stop myself. I feel like I'm too pleasant. I feel like I'm more boring and my personality suffers because I'm never stating my opinions. Is there a way to be opinionated without offending people or should I just not give a hoot?