I need some opinions and advice on hair color and style. I am for all intents and purposes "out" IRL now and I am trying to get all the parts of this nascent girlmode dialed in. Right now everyone I talk to is pretty divided between the "color your hair" and "NO OMFG SALT AND PEPPER IS BEAUTIFUL!" camps. What I feel is missing is a little nuance here.
Pics for Reference:
(taken after a really freaking hot bike ride..)
(taken a few days ago at a coffee shop)
Basically, is leaving my hair salt and pepper reinforcing a guy mode that I am trying to leave behind, or is it possible to keep my hair looking like this and be read properly as "actual real life woman over there" as opposed to "who is that gay boy wearing eyeliner?"
What I *think* is that I want to go blond with pink/blue highlights and that will basically put a pretty hefty thumb on the scale of "yup, she's a girl". However when I bring this up people are so fervently in the "NOOOOO!!!!" camp that I am now second guessing myself.
As far as personal preference goes, I can go either way considering strictly how it looks. Coloring my hair would be a hell of a lot of fun, but I also dig the grey and brown streaks. However from being read as my proper gender I am concerned that keeping the salt and pepper will make being out in the world as trans lady harder.
So, my questions are:
Color it to help with being properly gendered?
Don't color it and do X instead to compensate?
Also, any observations you can offer regarding hair style and womanhood will be greatly appreciated.