Sibling weddings cannot be in same month, even in different years?
June 30, 2014 6:57 PM Subscribe
I have two brothers-in-law, my husband's younger siblings. Both of them are getting married. The older of the two, who we'll call Brother A, has been planning his wedding for a while. His fiancé and he have been dating for a few years and are planning a traditional wedding for next year in August. The younger, Brother B, is getting married ASAP to a girlfriend he has only been dating briefly, for well... the classic reason for getting married in a hurry. They also want to get married in August, of this year. Brother A says that's "his" month. Is that even a thing?
posted by Comrade Doll to Human Relations (53 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
Brother A is flipping out because Brother B is impinging on "his" month, even though they're in different years. My spouse and I are of the mind that complaining about "sharing a month" when there is actually a year between ceremonies is silly even to say out loud. Half of the US seemingly gets married in June and those people make it work.
What could possibly be the harm in this? Anniversaries are for the couple. Maybe your mom sends you a card. Who cares if someone else shares your month or even date?
This is ridiculous. It feels like the worst kind of straining to make something about yourself. And honestly, the BIL rushing to the altar before his fiance starts showing has bigger problems to worry about and shouldn't be hassled over silly BS like this. But Brother A just stormed out of here in tears saying he always sacrifices for the family and why can't Brother B just get married in September? (Even if baby bulge weren't making sooner much better than later, Brother B's birthday is in September and having both your major personal holidays in one month sounds like an actual drag, rather than an imagined one.)
All of this ranting aside, Brother A and his fiancé really are important to us. We've only recently emerged from a prolonged falling out and I'd hate to see things get frosty again. As much trouble as we have seeing things their way, I have to ask: are we missing something? Is this a valid complaint? No "sharing a month"... is that even a thing?