Why is my husband's driving making me crazy?
June 29, 2014 8:03 AM Subscribe
In the last 6 months, I have suddenly gone from being entirely comfortable riding in the car, to a glued to the seat, slamming the imaginary brake scaredypants whenever my husband drives. He hasn't changed. Why have I?
posted by my left sock to Health & Fitness (18 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
As background, I believe my husband is a safe driver. He is never the fastest car on the road, he doesn't tailgate (we live in a big city where most people do), he drives defensively. He has never been in an accident, and the only time he was hit that I know of (and I was with him at the time) was when he was stopped at a red light, and a cab tapped him from behind. He does drive above the speed limit and doesn't always leave 2 full car lengths, but that's the worst I can say about him as a driver.
I never had a problem until a few months ago - now it seems like he is always going too fast. I feel like he doesn't see the cars in the right lane are too close and he is going to sideswipe them, or that he isn't braking soon enough and will crash into the guy in front. This is especially true when we are in a construction area with smaller lanes, but it is also true when we are in stop-and-go-traffic and the car barely makes it to 5 mph. I have the same fear-of-fiery-crash where I catch myself stomping the imaginary brake and my heart racing when there is literally no chance of crashing. That's why I think the problem is me. Right now the only thing that sort of works is to look out the side window and not at the road. It seems to get worse when I can feel the accelerator kicking in. We have not changed cars or had our car serviced unusually. I don't ride enough with other drivers to have a basis for comparison if it is just him. I don't drive.
Could this be an inner-ear thing? Or an aging thing (I am approaching but not yet in peri-menopause)? Just random anxiety suddenly manifesting this way? I have a weird feeling that it must be something physiological, because I really don't believe he's being unsafe, and because it's just as bad at slow speeds. Any insight would be appreciated.