We can be friends if you respect how boring I am.
June 25, 2014 5:45 PM Subscribe
My friend would like me to go out more. I am not interested. How do I address the tensions this is causing in our friendship?
posted by Milau to Human Relations (18 answers total) 8 users marked this as a favorite
Part of the issue is that we're currently in different spaces in our lives.
She's focused on dating and finding a partner. I am a serene single.
She's a business owner who's hoping she'll find a business model that will allow her to work less than 20 hours a week. I'm an academic obsessed with my job. I find I am happier at work when I keep to a good sleeping schedule.
Her business closes at 8pm, so she likes to go out at around 10. I like to be in bed by 10.
Recently, we had a fight because I didn't feel like going out (my bad, it was after I said I would). She wanted to go out (it was 11pm) and I wanted to go home. She basically said I was boring. She also said that the reason I am single is because I never go out.
I want to address those comments. Where do begin?