I am a show watcher wondering if a specific Game of Thrones fan theory has been confirmed in the books. I am hoping that the Maesters among us will deign to indulge me.
I read A Game of Thrones (the first book) and then started watching the show, I haven't read any later books. At some point during that experience, I came up with the theory that Jon Snow is Lyanna Stark's son and that Rhaegar's "rape" of her may not have been so rapey after all. I feel like there is basis for this in the show in season 1 between Ned's daydream "Promise me...", Robert's righteous anger against the Targaryens (Robert was wrong about just about everything else ...why wouldn't he be wrong about this?), Ned ominously telling Jon: "the next time I see you, we'll talk about your mother", etc.
The first time I saw the equation: R+L=J, I knew exactly what it meant, and I assumed that other show watchers would too. But, I just mentioned it on a Fanfare thread, and my comment got deleted (I assume because someone thinks that it's a spoiler, even though I was just speculating). Because this theory is a basis for some of my other speculation about the show, I'd like to be able to talk about it in Show Only circles, but if it's more than just a hypothesis, I'd like to avoid spoiling others.
On the other hand, if it really is just speculation, I feel like there's no harm in discussing it with show watchers because it's based on common knowledge.
So, my question: Has it been absolutely confirmed in A Song of Ice and Fire that Jon is the son of Lyanna Stark and Rhaegar Targaryen? If possible, please answer with a simple "Yes" or "No". If it's been hinted at more than we've seen in the show, but not confirmed, please answer "No".
I know that there has been at least one previously
, but I would like to avoid reading it because I don't want to spoil myself. If the right answer is: "the other thread is non-spoilery for show watchers beyond the yes or no that you're looking for so please read that", feel free to tell me that.