Help me help him put a ring on it
June 20, 2014 11:49 AM Subscribe
He's asking me what style of ring I'd like; it's just a promise/"love you" ring right now, but of course it's relevant for the "big one", we both know. Except I don't know what I like. Special snowflake: periodic months-long long-distance situation.
posted by DisreputableDog to Clothing, Beauty, & Fashion (27 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
I'm away for months at a time (not forever but for the next couple years thereabouts), so the loving couple going into the ring store doesn't help us with him wanting to get me a token of his affection -now-.
Except I don't wear rings as a decorative item. I don't wear them to go to parties even. I do wear a simple band, which I bought for myself as "pesticide". It's the perfect size (that's the other trouble, ugh), fit, comfort level. Unfortunately, due to our combined situation, I can't mail this ring back and know that it'll make it there safely.
I do like rings with things inset in the band somehow, but hate rings that somehow catch the skin and bite, or poke into the fingers on either side if the ring twists somehow, or that always twists so that the decorative item is underneath, or that I have to constantly clean some sort of gunk out of the decorative elements. Having attempted to be a ring wearer when I was younger, I know these things to a point.
I don't know how to pick ring styles though, when even "inset" styles boggle the mind. I'm not a woman who just loves staring at ring websites or going to the mall to try things on, and I definitely don't look at any bridal magazines or really have girl friends to chatter about these things with, so I'm staring at the Zales site right now in mild frustration muttering things like, "why do so many have gems surrounded by gems? good god" and "I'm a klutz! I can't wear most of this!" and "I don't fucking know!" I also find it frustrating that ring sites insist I look up rings by the occasion rather than something like "mostly plain with some inset stuff". Also, also frustrating that there are so many choices. I know what I don't like, and I know I'll definitely lean toward certain styles if I can only clarify what I want, I guess?
Help? How does a non-girly girl pick out these things, or at least narrow it down? I'm assuming that once I find my, I dunno, top 3 to 5 styles, I'm going to stick to those rather closely and hopefully never have to think about this too heavily again. This is also supposed to be like my current ring, which I pretty much never take off for any reason, and which has stood up to almost 2 years of my "how did I get THAT bruise on my hand?" klutziness (it still has tiny, tiny little dings, like every watch face I've ever owned).
Ugh, thank you for any tips you can provide.