I'm reading a poem for my grandmother's memorial service. I want to find something I like that will also get my mother's OK.
My mom asked me to represent our branch of the family by reading a poem at my grandmother's memorial in two weeks, so I want to choose something she and I both like.
I'd prefer not to read something that's too flowery or maudlin, but my mother vetoed my original choice (Olav Hauge's "The Dream We Carry
") as too enigmatic, though we both like the style.
So, I'm looking for a happy medium - something that's secular and not overly ornate, but specifically references the idea of passing on or memorializing someone. Because my grandmother had a long life and a comfortable death, we'd both prefer something that leans more to the meditative/bittersweet/poignant end of the spectrum as opposed to raw grief. Neither she or I wants to do "Do Not Stand At My Grave And Weep", and in general would like to avoid anything that has the feel of an "obligatory" reading.
I've read some other memorial reading selection threads (1
) here and have taken a few suggestions, but I'm holding out hope that something else suggested here will resonate more deeply for both of us.