Argument got out of hand. Police got called to the house. Now what?
June 8, 2014 12:53 PM Subscribe
We're a married couple with two kids.
We got into an argument that spiraled out of control and wound up with screaming and yelling and slamming things around (on both parts). There was no physical violence between us, and nobody was at risk of being physically harmed. Nevertheless, someone (a neighbor, we assume) called the police.
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The police came, talked to us separately, and basically let us off with a warning, with the caveat that if they had to come out again that night, someone would probably be arrested. There was no report filed, and nobody was arrested.
It has been a terrible year for us, involving near-deaths of loved ones, extreme financial strain, and extremely difficult health problems, so we've been fighting a lot more than usual, and lot more aggressively than usual. We're in couples therapy and individual therapy, and it's largely okay, but the stress still sometimes gets away from us.
Our kids slept through the whole thing, fortunately. On the other hand, both of us are now completely mortified and having a lot of trouble moving on. Specifically, we're both trying to cope with being that family that had the police called on them (to our neighbors), and being the kind of people who had the police called on them (to ourselves).
It's not a huge neighborhood, and we know about half of our neighbors socially. How do we cope with our feelings of embarrassment and shame?
We had a bad moment in public, and we need to move on: please constrain your advice to that. Throwaway email: firstname.lastname@example.org