The ramifications of having a partner who is a known sperm donor?
June 5, 2014 4:17 PM Subscribe
My boyfriend is considering donating sperm to his best friend and his wife. I personally find the situation a bit worrying and I'm wondering what I can expect.
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His best friend is a man and he's infertile. He's been with his wife for almost ten years. They say they want to go with a known donor because they want someone they know and like. And they approached my boyfriend about it. He says he would like to do it.
My boyfriend and I (I'm a woman BTW) have been in a relationship for almost a year and have known each other for longer. I know them, but not very well. They did not involve me in the conversation that's just starting. I don't know how involved I will be, I do know it involves some kinds of screening, doctors, and lawyers. I do worry about things but I'm wondering about what my own boundaries will be and what it will be like. I want to be supportive of my boyfriend, but I worry we are wandering into a minefield.
What is appropriate for me to be involved with? It's likely this potential child if this goes through will be told my boyfriend is the donor and have some contact with him, so it seems very likely it will affect my relationship. Should I push to be more involved? Or is it too private and should I just stand back and let them deal with this matter?