The doritos stalk at midnight...
May 3, 2014 9:51 PM Subscribe
FoodFilter: My boyfriend likes junk food. The exception being sushi. Otherwise it's all meat, cheese, chips, pizza, and soda. We may be living together at some point in the future as this is getting serious, but this is an issue for me. I've worked hard to get on a healthy diet and I do not keep ANY junk in my house. Sometimes tortilla chips and salsa. I eat mostly paleo, but do have cheese.
posted by McSockerson The Great to Human Relations (49 answers total) 12 users marked this as a favorite
I know I can't change him. However, I absolutely dread the idea of having to deal with chips, bread, frozen pizza, cereal, etc in the house. I cannot have it here, I will eat it. Yes, that's my problem to deal with. Which I have dealt with by not having it in the house (as per the many askmes about "how do i not eat junk food? don't buy it.")
I don't eat wheat/gluten for health reasons. While I'm not celiac, I feel so much better when I don't eat that. My allergies cleared up as did my skin, I have energy, and my depression is easier to handle (meds seem to work better as well).
I'm just afraid that if we start living together I am going to have temptation everywhere and put back on the 30 pounds I've lost.
He's not interested in eating healthy. He has a demanding physical job so his diet isn't currently making him fat at all.
Here are things that he doesn't like:
- spring mix or baby lettuce (doesn't have a "crunch" like iceberg)
- shredded cabbage (tastes weird)
- shredded mexican blend sargento (tastes weird)
- any salad dressing that is not Italian and a very specific Italian (Wishbone)
- spaghetti squash and most other vegetables
- cole slaw
- raisins, nuts, fruit (except for smoothies I make which surprised the hell out of me)
- soft corn tortillas
- ketchup, mustard, relish, sour cream, taco sauce, hot sauce
Here is what he likes:
- Kraft mac and cheese (not the generic)
- Red Baron deep dish pizzas
- Yellow blocks of cheddar
- cereal (sweet kind)
- bread and pasta
- ice cream sandwiches
- some sort of cheese dip that comes in a can
I'm listing these things so maybe someone can see a pattern of some sort. Is he some kind of super taster? He's one of the cilantro tastes like soap people.
I do not harp on him at all. I've gotten him to try things a few times when he said he's never had it. He sometimes likes things, but very very rarely. I got him to try almond milk with granola and dates and he was incredibly surprised it tasted good (I was surprised he liked it!). But other than that and the smoothies, he rarely likes anything that I like. I am not sitting here saying "you should eat healthier". I eat what I eat, he eats what he eats. We eat together at my house maybe once a week. I've eaten at his place, but other than breakfast (eggs and bacon! yum!), the iceberg lettuce salad with chunks of yellow cheese and Wishbone italian dressing made me feel kind of sick. I did not say a thing to him because I am trying to be..well, not a Food Nazi. I don't expect him to have special food for me at his place.
My concerns are:
- for him - he is eating himself to a heart attack. hopefully he goes in for a check up and the doctor will say something.
- for me - If/when we start living together, I only have so much willpower. I am able to resist donuts at work 95% of the time these days. I sometimes will have pizza or some bread when out on the weekends if we're dining out. But that's about it. I've tried to keep some food he likes here and I found it very, very difficult to deal with having it here. I don't think I have a food addiction problem, this is just like all those askmes where the answer is "don't keep stuff in the house you don't want to eat".
Please feel free to tell me this is all on me and I just need to buck up and not eat the crap I don't want to. It's just that for a long time, I've viewed my house as my safe place. There is no temptation here. I don't have cable so I don't sit and watch tv all the time. I don't have cereal so I don't just sit and eat cereal all the time. I'm ok with him liking different foods, hell, if he wanted kimchee around all the time or liked duck eggs or shrimp, totally fine. It's just that he subsists on the things that have been personal battles for me to overcome. And they're back.
And I don't know what to do.