I can't stop not doing my final project. I don't want to fail. Help.
April 2, 2014 8:40 AM Subscribe
This is my last semester of college, and there's a major project I haven't worked on for weeks. Parts of it are past due. Other people are counting on me. I feel paralyzed.
posted by anonymous to Health & Fitness (23 answers total) 6 users marked this as a favorite
Every time I think about working on it, I instead distract myself with games or TV or books or the internet.
I want to be anonymous, so there's a lot of vagueness here.
Basically: I've had a lifelong pattern of retreating from difficult things, like not asking someone to a dance for fear of rejection. Lots of people have that problem, but I fear that I have it more than most because I've avoided socialization often enough long enough that as an adult I do not have a network of friends. No references for a job application. Nobody to dine with. Nobody I see apart from work and school.
There's a cycle: Being awkward and shy reduces a person's social experience, and limited social experience leads to awkwardness and shyness. If it snowballs, it can define a person's life. Things have fallen apart.
The final project requires a lot of socialization and risk-taking, in addition to writing. The old habit has worsened in the past few months. I've been hiding rather than doing, both socially and academically.
Part of the answer is to find some people to talk to about this, especially a qualified psychiatrist or therapist. I'm posting this because it feels like a step in the right direction.