To job hunt or not to job hunt?
March 9, 2014 10:45 AM Subscribe
I really dislike my work situation and I'd like to find a new one. Problem is, my husband and I are planning to start a family soon. What should I do?
posted by anonymous to Work & Money (21 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
I'm in my 30s, and I've been at my job for a few years. The actual day-to-day work isn't awful, but there is no room for growth in my position, I don't believe in what the company does, the workload is punishing, the boss is an extreme micromanager, and morale overall is really low. I never intended to stay here for as long as I have - I started on a contract - but it was one of those things that turned into full-time and I said yes because it was easy money. Now here I am a few years later, and unhappy. I am never excited to go to work, and by the end of my workdays I am drained emotionally and mentally. I am taking care of myself (exercise, eating well, etc) and try to focus my happiness on my home life and my hobbies.
I've been job hunting a little bit over the last year and had a couple phone interviews that didn't go anywhere. I've been feeling the push lately to job hunt more, and this weekend I found many positions that I'd like to apply to. I have reservations about starting a new job, though, because my husband and I want to start a family - we are planning to start trying in a few months. Since I'm in my mid 30s I don't want to wait any longer.
I have no idea how long conception could take, and the thought of staying at my job for a year plus more makes me sort of ill. However, I fear that if I got a new job, I would have to push the babymaking by at least a few months because I wouldn't want to be "that woman" who starts a new job and then a few months later announces that she's knocked up. However, my current job is not really family-friendly, and my coworkers who have kids get a lot of grief for leaving early/asking to take flex time/whatever.
Ideally I would like to keep working after I have a child, for the salary but also because I generally enjoy having a career and working. If I stay at my current job, the plan would definitely be to leave after maternity leave anyway (they do not offer paid leave, and I am not on their benefits, so I don't feel like I owe them anything. I live in a state that pays for four months of job-protected leave at a portion of your salary). I would much rather be at a job that I enjoy that I would be excited to go back to, rather than push the inevitable job hunting until after I have a baby. However, I'd like to be practical. What would you guys do in my situation?