I need to NOT like this person. Immediately.
March 7, 2014 9:32 PM Subscribe
I've started a real nice friendship with someone in a serious relationship. I can't help it but I feel like I'm starting to develop strong feelings. I need to stop and prevent these thoughts from going any further.
posted by MeaninglessMisfortune to Human Relations (28 answers total) 8 users marked this as a favorite
I've posted a question previously about having an infatuation on a co-worker. As it turns out, we have a shared interest in film. Out of nowhere, she invited me out to catch a flick we both wanted to see. This soon developed into us exchanging movies and having conversations about them both at work (occasionally) and us going out and catching new movies. We've done this a few times and have ended with us having drinks afterwards.
We got to know each other more and now we have a nice friendship going on. She occasionally talks about her boyfriend, we sometimes talk about ourselves personally and it's all just fun and we both have a real good time. Time passes real quickly and I enjoy her company. We have great chemistry. But tonight we caught a flick, had some drinks and I feel myself feeling jealous and envious of her boyfriend. It's definitely the alcohol and the loneliness I've been wrapped up lately that end up making me feel this way. But I honestly like talking to her and I find her attractive.
I know that we should probably stop doing this, because she's a co-worker - she's in relationship - and it's been awhile since I've been romantic with anyone, so I don't need much advice on that. We're both at a job that's just a day job for right now. It's just my habit of personalizing/romanticizing that I need to stop. I don't want to continue this thought pattern and end up down a road that would lead to nothing but hurt. Any advice on how to appreciate this friendship more would be great. I just need to be reminded that these feelings will pass. I don't want to do anything stupid. Or some tips that would help me avoid all of these romantic thoughts that my mind conjures up.
I've been actively looking for people to casually date but I've hit a real slump. Online dating hasn't been working out too much and it's been incredibly hard.