I can't even get myself to stick to a schedule...
February 14, 2014 5:24 PM Subscribe
Looking for books on baby care/baby development which don't focus on getting the baby into a routine.
posted by Catseye to Society & Culture (12 answers total) 8 users marked this as a favorite
Baby Catseye is due to arrive any time in the next few weeks. Although I'm not planning to follow any particular baby-care manual to the letter, I do like the idea of having a few different books around to use for advice and ideas.
Problem: Everything I can find in the bookshops stresses the importance of getting the baby into a routine, and this isn't an approach that appeals to me. Either it's Gina Ford advocating a strict to-the-minute schedule, or it's the Baby Whisperer stuff and the EASY method which seems more relaxed but still routine-based. I'm happy to take what's useful and ignore the rest (I have one of the Baby Whisperer books already), but the routine-based approach isn't really what I want to do.
So, who's writing books about the alternative? What's out there that gives you a guide to looking after your baby without structuring it into a set routine? I don't know what I'm specifically looking for here in terms of parenting philosophies - demand-based feeding? attachment parenting? - so I'm open to different approaches, and, really, any recommendations for baby care books that aren't about routines are welcome. UK-based books, nice but not essential.
(And yes, I know that routines work really well for some babies and some families, and I'm open to going down that path if ours turns out to be one of them despite my current leanings. Right now, though, I'm looking for something that gives advice from a non-routine-focused perspective.)