Toddler rude to papa
February 11, 2014 11:48 AM Subscribe
Three months ago we produced a new baby (yay us!). Toddler Nom (not quite three years old) has adapted as well as one might expect. But now she acts like she doesn't like her papa anymore. How do we react?
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Toddler Nom has firmly placed Baby in her kingdom of things and people to boss about. She actively participates in nappy changing, vitamin dispensing and general Guessing Why Baby Is Crying. I think it's going really well.
I also make sure she has Special Time with Mama every day: We take a bath together and we have the going to bed ritual. On weekends, my husband will sometimes take Toddler Nom out to the playground so that I have time to sleep in with the baby. Sometimes he also watches kids TV with her.
However, she has started being really cool towards her papa. During the day she asks where he is. As soon as he comes home she yells "Noooooo." And from then on it's "no, go away." "No, you don't play with me." And what drives my husband nuts: "Go away from here!" and she tries to push him. I usually tell her to stop being rude but it doesn't help. My husband is a little bit hurt, I think. He digs his heels in and refuses to move. I should add that she's not always like this. They also have sweet interactions at least once a day. But the difference to how she acts towards me is striking.
In general he kills her with love (and he's a total sap, heh.) But yesterday he blew a fuse and told her that if she was so naughty she would have to go to her room. As we have never done time out before (I don't believe in them) she was quite upset about it.
In general, what works for chastizing Toddler Nom is "If you do X again, Y will happen." Then she makes a choice and in general accepts if the promised punishment follows.
How should we proceed from here? Mostly, I am asking what I can do, as my husband has not asked for help and I am leery of being all "you are doing it WRONG". But I could make some gentle suggestions.