I am a single mother, down in the dumps and looking for mefites for a lightbulb or maybe just a bone. I've been juggling my post-divorce financial mess, toxic workplace, toxic people all around, and I'm so tired and exhausted, I just know my six-year old and I need to be somewhere where the atmosphere is more laid back with better quality of life.
posted by anonymous to Work & Money (13 answers total) 5 users marked this as a favorite
For the last 3-5 years or so, I've been brainstorming and researching on the next move and haven't come up with anything. Now that the pressures and negativity around me have escalated, I need to make this change sooner rather than later but no place or job has caught my attention. Granted, I didn't research continuously in these years, but they would happen in spurts with lots of late nights online, delving into a different location (houston, chapel hill, cocoa beach, sarasota...) We live in NYC.
I don't know if it's fear or if I'm just so delusional, I won't find what I want which is, good wholesome and nurturing public schools that are focused on the child as a whole and not just tests, affordable but also wholesome and nurturing after school or perhaps a job whose hours are flexible and where I can work at home so that I could skip the after school expense and be there to raise, guide, and teach my child. These days, we don't get home until 6pm and the evenings are just a rush to get dinner & bath done by or before 8. I really dislike it.
I would love to be in an area that is warm-hot most times of the year but also close to an airport with direct flights to NYC. To be a part of an open-minded, active community who support the children but aren't nitpicking, nosey-body types. ha. I love to cook at home and need close access to organic produce, health stores, east asian markets, latino, and italian markets. I prefer a laid back atmosphere and would love to be on or near the beach if possible and if not, then some kind of body of water, green space, or mountains........ I miss the sounds of chirping birds and having a yard to dine al fresco and watch my kid run around and enjoy the outdoors. I just want us to plant our feet somewhere and grow in our new home, make new friends, lead a quiet & balanced life.
I imagine relaxing walks on the beach each weekday evenings, spending most of my free time cooking, and doing the usual chores, and taking breaks right outside. We both love to dine al fresco. I dream of my little one enjoying school (and after school, if necessary) and having access to plenty of extracurricular activities (swimming, martial arts, music, art, sports, etc)
My career by chance is administrative, office managing, book keeping, and things like that and my level of experience goes back a couple of decades. My current salary is $60k without a college degree. Oh, and I'm also in over my head with post-divorce debt at $40k and have been taking small steps, banned myself from any charging privileges, and making small progress in cutting it down. Lately, with the built up stress, I'm considering ruining my very good credit by filing for bankruptcy. I feel so stuck.