Happy 40th new mom in a small town...now how do we celebrate?
February 5, 2014 4:17 PM Subscribe
My awesome sister in law, who had her first child a few months ago, is turning 40 in a few weeks. My brother, however, has no plans for this milestone - a fact which I think is a disaster in the making. How did you celebrate your 40th in some memorable yet not massively difficult to achieve way? Help me give her a birthday she'll remember!
posted by OneSmartMonkey to Human Relations (21 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
My SIL is a fun, outgoing personality who likes to have a good time and celebrate: she planned a big surprise party for my brother's 40th (he is introverted and shy and not good at planning these things, but thoughtful and kind and very in love with his wife). They live in a smallish town (~15,000 people), many of their friends aren't within easy driving distance, and her family is thousands of miles away. With a new baby, they're both feeling tied to home and tired. Are there any great ideas on how we could make this day special for her despite being far away from most friends and family and having a little one to look after? Getting away for a weekend isn't really in the cards for them right now (I don't think they'd want to even if we volunteered to watch the baby). They don't live close to any major cities, so typical things like "give her a spa day" or "get them a fancy restaurant certificate" really won't work. My parents are willing to pitch in/babysit, and I can probably recruit a handful of others, too, if needed. I suspect if he really does nothing more than a gift/card/dinner/flowers, she's going to be disappointed, and he confessed he has no idea what else to do the other day.