Why Am I So Ok After Breaking Up with Someone I Loved?
January 31, 2014 5:14 AM Subscribe
On Tuesday, I broke up with my long-term boyfriend. I was devastated Tuesday and Wednesday, now I feel pretty ok. What gives?
posted by Tall Telephone Pea to Human Relations (23 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
This is my first break-up, and I feel bad about how I feel. I'd love to hear if anyone else has gone through something similar.
We were together for 4.5 years. We loved each other, and had plans to move in together. However, I had my doubts about our long-term viability for a while, but it was just too painful to think of living without him. Eventually, though, after some serious conversations with him, it became clear that I was never going to get the emotional support I needed from him.
I decided about a week and a half ago that I wanted to end it (I wanted to wait until a goodbye party for a good mutual friend had passed before I did it), and definitely had some crying jags for that week and a half. I felt heartbroken Tuesday and Wednesday, like someone died. Then, Thursday, I felt ok. Not happy, but not all that sad. Now I feel bad for not feeling worse. I actually wish I felt bad again, like I'm some sort of monster for not being really sad right now.
Has anyone else experienced this? I'm afraid to talk to my friends about it, because I feel like a heartless bastard.