Why does this potentially awesome move make me uncomfortable?
January 29, 2014 9:09 AM Subscribe
Looking for an apartment, found a possibility with an interesting guy I met a couple of months ago. The neighbourhood is great, the apartment is gorgeous. I get along well with him and I will expand my social circle living with him, so that's a nice plus as well.
However... my guts say no. And I can't pinpoint a reason.
posted by StoneSpace to Human Relations (48 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
I can write a list of cons:
- the room is significantly smaller than my current room. This will force me to decrease my possessions/stuff, but I think that is a good thing, despite the work it will involve.
- we would pay the same rent, even though he has a bigger room. I have brought this up, and he argues that since it is furnished, it is a good deal. However, I could certainly buy my own furniture, I do have my own kitchenware, and while I would be using the couch/projector/chairs, what if I already had this already and were moving in? Would it be different then? I can see that this is an issue to me, and I can't rationalize it. Splitwise has given a 30-40$ decrease in my rent, if it were to be split fairly, which is quite negligible.
- The kitchen is small. But the dining room is large enough for prep work.
- There is little storage space -- but this also helps for diminishing possessions.
I'm trying to explore my feelings and take a decision, and I'm not sure what questions I can ask myself.
First world problems, I know. Any advice appreciated.