Second thoughts about nanny. When do we freak out?
January 23, 2014 9:42 PM Subscribe
How long should we expect an experienced nanny to get into the swing of things with two infants in p/t share?
posted by demonstartivepapadonous to Human Relations (27 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
We have a pretty small sample size and this is all new to us. It is hard to determine if our 4-month-old is having a tough time transitioning OR if the share days are too much for her and he’s not getting what he needs. Between two families, we are able to offer nanny a full-time schedule/salary. The other family is in our apt. building. Our son has 1 day of care alone and 2 days with a younger baby.
We felt had an extensive interview and screening process. We set up 2 half-days of solo care where we went out to run errands. Things seemed to go fairly smoothly. This was our first official week. We were able to pop-in (other family was not) but mostly gave the nanny her space.
Day 1: [Just our baby] In the beginning he cried very hard and differently than we’ve heard before. We intervened after 10-15 min. On our three pop-ins our baby was on playmat (calm) and nanny was sitting in a chair with no engagement. Once, she was on the phone.
Day 2: [share day] In one pop-in baby was again alone (calm) on playmat. In 2nd pop-in he was crying hard in crib. Mom helped and changed a soggy diaper. End of day, nanny communicated she wasn’t able to give him his *normal naps. His voice was a little **hoarse from crying hard.
Day 3: [share day] We dropped him off for 3 hours. Nanny again communicated she wasn’t able to give him a normal nap. He came home way overtired. His voice was extremely hoarse.
*Normal nap is 30+ minutes in crib.
** He is not sick.