"I'm not like a regular boss, I'm a cool boss." New manager seeks tips!
January 21, 2014 12:24 PM Subscribe
I need some tips on how to be a good manager, but not so much the kind of tips I can find on various lists when I google it, i.e. "Give results oriented feedback." I am not great at socializing outside of work-related exchanges and I am an introvert. How can I inspire my team and make them like me and get the most out of them?
posted by AppleTurnover to Work & Money (32 answers total) 57 users marked this as a favorite
I am starting a new job as a manager at a new office this week and I am looking for some tips on how to be a good manager. I have managed people before, but I was generally with them from the beginning or hired them. This is a completely new situation where I will have a team in place already when I get there. The team members will have been there for a year or more, although I will also end up hiring a couple people, it seems.
I'm especially interested in tips for managing well in the social sense. I am aware and believe firmly in setting clear expectations, correcting mistakes immediately but also pointing out good work, etc. -- that's fine. But I don't know socially what I should do to make them feel comfortable or inspired, or just plain make them like me. I'm wondering how to balance getting to know them as employees and getting to know the office vs. getting to know them as people and setting a friendly tone. I want to figure out early what they think works at the office, what they think needs improving, what they want to be doing more of, what they don't don't, etc. so I can get the best out of them and make my department work better. And I want them to like me and see me as a good boss.
I am an introvert and I tend to avoid socializing with my co-workers outside of the office. Should I take each of my team members (about five) to lunch one-on-one and talk to them about work, or take them each to lunch and just have a friendly getting-to-know-you conversation, or not do the one-on-one lunches at all? Should I take them out as a group? What should I do early in the first couple weeks to connect with them?
Going forward, should I be meeting with them regularly one-on-one? I don't think they are used to having daily meetings, but I would like to implement morning meetings just to make sure we know what's going on for the day and as a built-in opportunity to discuss anything that's going on. I think people work better when they feel they are part of what is going on, and I know I worked in companies where I never knew what the company or my boss was doing and I hated it. Would that be redundant with carving out one-on-one time? And if I do meet with them, how often should I do it?
What else do people recommend? I want the lines of communication open, I want me to connect with them and them to connect with me, and so on, but I don't want to come across as being overbearing or too intense in anyway either. I just want them to feel like I am supportive, helping them do better and I want them to like me. I've met my team and I know some people in the company and I think they are really great -- I don't think I need to be a stern boss in anyway or change things a lot; it's just about helping them be even better and making sure I can fit in seamlessly and guide them along the path they are already on.
Sorry this was so long. Thanks for any help.