How do I get a boyfriend?
January 14, 2014 4:56 AM Subscribe
How do people go from crushes to more?
posted by dinosaurprincess to Human Relations (23 answers total) 10 users marked this as a favorite
I am not experienced in this field, but lately I've just sort of been wanting a boyfriend. I've had boyfriends in the past (like middle school) when they just flat out asked me 'will you go out with me'. But that doesn't really happen much anymore because I don't know how to show guys I'm interested without being creepy or seeming desperate. And I think it might be a self-esteem issue as well, because everytime I like someone I have this overwhelming feeling that they're out of my league and I'm not good enough for them, because my life is too much of a mess. It's not because I'm palpably unattractive, guys have been interested in me before and asked me out on dates and stuff like that. But I don't know how to show more-than-friends signals. Is this failure to flirt an issue? I'm not sure if I'm brave enough to try flirting, it just seems so silly! And scary. Mostly scary.
There are girls out there who always have boyfriends, or get into relationships very quickly after they meet someone. What are they doing differently? Is it a vibe thing? Are they just better looking than me?
I am being greedy by asking so many questions but basically my specific questions are:
a) how do I get over feeling like I'm not good enough for guys I like?
b) how do I flirt without seeming creepy or desperate?
c) mefites who don't flirt, how did you get an SO?
d) people who are serial-daters, what do you differently from your chronically single friends?
I've let so many people get away where I sort of felt that we both were interested in each other... And just this time I don't want to let it happen! Thanks hivemind!