The Date From Hell?
October 14, 2005 9:52 AM Subscribe
What does it mean when a man shows an anal sex video on the first date?
posted by Secret Life of Gravy to human relations (103 answers total) 25 users marked this as a favorite
My husband's co-worker, Mary, is 39 and anxious to get married and have kids. She recently accepted an invitation from Tom to have dinner at his house. He was grilling outside and "for her pleasure" popped in an X-rated video that concentrated on oral sex. When Tom returned, he sat down with her and watched the tape. Whwn she finally got up enough nerve to complain about the tape, he unwrapped a brand new tape of the anal sex variety. She felt very uncomfortable but said nothing. The rest of the evening was anti-climactic, and they shook hands good night.
Mary is claiming that this wasn't a date and Tom is just her friend. My husband says this most definitely was a date and Mary should let Tom know she is not interested in him romantically before accepting any more invitations. I think she should not accept any more invitations, period, as Tom is exhibiting hostility towards her.
How would you interpret his actions?