Surviving and thriving amidst workplace sociopathy
January 4, 2014 10:01 PM Subscribe
What are some techniques and strategies for not only coping with, but thriving and getting the upper hand in dealings with the conscience-free?
posted by Occam's Aftershave to Human Relations (27 answers total) 42 users marked this as a favorite
My new-ish lateral colleague in another department, with whom I work closely in developing strategy for yearly projects, has revealed himself to be a multipurpose Prince of Darkness. Manipulation, backstabbing, intimidation, and sabotage are the order of the day. He has no respect for professional or personal boundaries and lacks a conscience. Times are hard.
Those who work with him have seen this behavior, so convincing my management of what he's all about isn't the issue. For various reasons, the behavior is supported by our workplace and culture. Also, for various reasons, I can't go work somewhere else. Nor will he be going anywhere any time soon. We are in this together like Lecter and Starling. At least for another six months.
My goal for this period: less fuzzy black psychic lint after email/phone/live encounters. Just being around the guy engenders visceral repulsion. For the sake of saving my own ass, I need to be able to come away from these sessions not only sound of mind, but smiling and skipping merrily on my way.
I'm well aware that dealings with the conscience-free are held on an asymmetrical court, and that I do not have home advantage. That said, I'm sure that someone must have come out on top in a similar situation. What techniques and strategies are applicable here? I'm open to pretty much anything at this point.