Ashes - Splitting After Cremation
December 27, 2013 6:07 PM Subscribe
Ashes taken against both the letter and spirit of the dead's wishes.
posted by Talez to Human Relations (10 answers total)
My uncle passed away a few months ago and now we're all back in town. The instructions were clear, he wanted to be cremated and wanted to go where my grandparents go.
During the scattering my cousin (the executor who has probate) put some of the ashes in a baggie. He gave some to his sister who was most likely going to split them with his ex wife who didn't want to have any ashes. He also took some for himself.
My father is incredibly distraught about this but my grandparents just don't want disharmony. I'm absolutely livid because I consider the wishes of the dead as sacrosanct more than anything. I had a talk to my cousin and tried to make him respect the stated wishes but my other cousin already left with her ashes.
All I've come up with is this is bullshit but I don't know what to do from here. Do I just drop it for the sake of harmony? Do I try to force them to respect the wishes of their dead father any way I can? Do I just cut ties with the responsible party?