Help convince me that alcohol isn't terrible!
December 20, 2013 10:16 PM Subscribe
I don't drink at all and I'm happy that way. What I don't like is the strong aversion I have to other people drinking. Help me understand why people drink and why it needn't be all that evil! :)
posted by miaow to Human Relations (38 answers total) 8 users marked this as a favorite
I grew up in a wonderful teetotaler Buddhist family. When I was very young I had some close friends whose fathers frequently got drunk. I'd watch them being out of control/sometimes abusive, feeling absolutely no respect, a bit of fright, and plenty of disgust. As a teenager, I hated seeing my peers drunk and throwing up and usually stayed away from social situations involving alcohol.
I'm now nearing thirty. I've never had a full glass of alcohol; I've had sips of various alcohols and felt the slightest bit tipsy once, but to me alcohol is a sort of unknown mysterious evil! My husband doesn't drink, many of my close friends don't, and I don't socialise with other good friends over alcohol. In the rare occasion that I'm in company with alcohol around, I feel a strong revulsion that I suspect is not entirely healthy. I dislike the slight change in people, their eyes, and the atmosphere, when they are even mildly tipsy.
When I think of my siblings or closest friends drinking, I feel slightly scared and unhappy about the thought. I sometimes try to persuade them not to drink. I wonder how I'd respond to a child of mine drinking (as they are likely to do when I have any!).
I think the feeling of revulsion must be dealt with in a general way through awareness and meditation. But I'd like to at least think about it differently to begin with. I've often thought the very nature of alcohol is to alter one's normal state and to escape from reality. Is that not so terrible? Would you really compare alcohol with chocolate or tea?