Lifeless in Palo Alto.
December 4, 2013 2:22 PM Subscribe
Six months ago I moved from Maryland to the Bay Area to start a new life in tech. I knew no one here before moving. The weather here is wonderful. I live and work in Palo Alto at a startup-y job with long hours. I am often pretty dang miserable outside of work. How can I have more fun day to day?
posted by Nomyte to Sports, Hobbies, & Recreation (20 answers total) 6 users marked this as a favorite
Right now my activities are as follows: work, work, work, sleep, rapidly trying to skill up on tech stuff, listening to music at home, and sitting in overcrowded cafes surrounded by loud groups of amorous high-schoolers. On weekends, I sometimes walk the Dish and catch a 40's B&W crowd favorite at the Stanford.
Socially, I know zero people outside of work. I've looked on Meetup, Craigslist, Idealist, and Schemer, and so far haven't found existing things that drew my interest or matched my schedule. There are several bar-hopping groups for "just graduated and moved to Silicon Valley" singles, and I'm both too old for those groups and not really into spending time in bars. The tech meetups are over my head (I don't have dev-level skills in anything) and I generally can't get to them without a car. By and large, my coworkers either do couples' stuff or play a lot of DOTA.
I am very happy with the fact that I can easily walk to work and to all the major amenities: supermarkets, stores, the doctor, the bank, the gym, the library, the post office, the train station. But as far as building a life outside of work, it's kind of been a disaster.
Social dance isn't something I'm interested in at all, and I'm neither athletic nor outdoorsy. I can't go to the city during the week (I leave work late, train stops running pretty early), and I generally have no idea what to do there besides touristy stuff, which I've already done.
Should I just break down and start saving for a car that I don't really need? What else can I do to actually start… living?