Should I tell her?
October 31, 2013 4:09 PM Subscribe
A friend's ex-husband confessed a number of sins to me. Should I tell her? Drama below.
posted by Josephine Macaulay to human relations (58 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
I dated him for two years, then she was married to him for 12. They divorced 4 years ago and she and I became good friends, unbeknownst to him.
As I understood it, she divorced him because his brother sexually assaulted her, and he thought they should protect the brother and not report the incident to the police (I don't know how that all panned out.) She also told me he cheated on her one time with a woman they met in a bar.
He asked me to dinner one night after their divorce (again, not knowing she and I were friends) and proceeded to tell me about many affairs he had during their marriage, including a lengthy sexual relationship with her best friend.
She is still best friends with the best friend and has no idea they were ever involved. If it were me I'd want to know to get the hell away from this person claiming to be my "best friend" but I know this is seriously damaging territory. Which way should I go on this?