How to deal with sleeping alone when a spouse works the night shift.
October 23, 2013 11:46 AM Subscribe
My husband frequently has to work overnight, leaving me alone in the house. I've been having a lot of trouble and worry over sleeping at night when he's gone, and it's eating into my day. What else can I try? Details inside.
posted by sciencemandan to health & fitness (43 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
(Borrowing his account to ask this.)
My husband has to work about 8-10 overnight shifts a month. We live just outside an urban area with a moderate amount of crime. We have a dog in the house and good exterior lighting. I've found myself having quite a bit of trouble sleeping through the night when he's not around. When he is here, we have a pretty typical routine of watching TV to wind down, then heading off to bed together. I sleep fine when he's around, usually 6-8 hours.
I've tried to form my own habits and routines for bedtime, but it just seems like the irregularity of his schedule makes it difficult to settle into a routine. I've tried things like relaxing baths, a noise machine, etc to help me fall asleep, but I'm still having a lot of trouble getting more than a 2-3 hours of good sleep each night. It seems like I'm hyperaware of sounds in the house or outside, and I feel like it keeps me up and on edge.
At one point, I went to a hotel for the night just to get a good night's rest. I think that is a good indication that it's not so much an issue of having him in bed with me, but an issue of me feeling safe in our home. We're near a street with lots of traffic and bars, and it probably doesn't help that I keep a close eye on police reports of nearby home break-ins. I don't necessarily think we live in a dangerous part of the city, so I don't know that changing neighborhoods would help anything.
It just seems like the more I think about trying to get a good night's sleep, the more I'm concerned that it's not going to happen.
Where can I go from here? How can I stop worrying about getting sleep and find ways to ease myself into a routine that will last?